- 6 months ago
- Wedding: City, State
I bought my dress the week after we got engaged. I’ve read that you’re not supposed to do this until you have the venue, etc, but we’d already been talking about getting married for months and knew it was going to be in a church (either his or mine – turns out we picked his) with an outdoor (hopefully) reception. I went shopping to get an idea of what I like and found a dress I love that was a sample on sale. Without a lot of time to really weigh the pros and cons (it was the only dress and it was pretty cheap), we bought it. It’s pretty much the opposite of what I thought I wanted (I wanted sleeves and I adore lace, but this is strapless and has no lace!) but I felt so comfortable and confident in it. It’s especially strange for me to feel confident in something strapless. I hate strapless things. But I loved it, I moved well in it, and I was able to sit – it checked off all the boxes! My conservative parents were with me and loved the dress too.
Except now I’m worrying that it’s not “church appropriate” because it’s strapless. In my church, I don’t think it would be a big deal (my cousin got married in a Catholic church in a strapless dress). But his church… I’m not terribly familiar with Moravian customs. I’m planning to ask, but I’m honestly a little afraid that the answer will be that it’s not appropriate.
Anyway, since I’m grasping for things to be anxious about, I figured I’d ask for suggestions in case it’s not appropriate and I need to do something about it.
The obvious solution is to sell the current dress and buy another dress, which I’m willing to do as a last resort. Wedding is in May, so I have enough time if I start soon (like, now, probably).
But what other options do I have? Would adding a shawl make it appropriate? What about removable straps/cap sleeve type things? The seamstress said it was a possibility. The wedding is in May, so I don’t think a shrug or something like that would look right. Are there other options? I’m fairly crafty – I crochet and I can sew – so making something is definitely a possibility.
I know photos would help, but I’m paranoid and not posting or sharing photos of it anywhere (plus, I don’t really have a good one), so… Sorry, but no photos!