(Closed) “Strapless dresses look terrible on big girls. All of their “stuff” hangs out..”

posted 9 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@VegasSukie You are one hot tamale! I think a fit and flare gown looks much better on a curvy girl than a stick frame.

Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@UpstateCait At least it was your FGMIL that said it to you. My own mother said this to me. Now I have serious paranoia about picking anything strapless.

All of the girls on here look amazing in their strapless dresses. I will say though that I your FMGIL is wrong in thinking that the issue is only with plus size women. I’ve seen plenty of non-plus size brides with the “hang-over”. What’s more insulting is why would that only appear when wearing a strapless dress? I know as a size 18/20 plus size woman that when I wear a knit tank top you can see all my back fat around my bra. It doesn’t magically appear when you put on a strapless dress. lol sheesh!

Post # 63
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@UpstateCait

 

I must admit, i was very nervous to even begin looking for a gown because of that reason. My arms look not as nice, due to loosing weight on and off in my life. The tops look great, underneath, not so much.

So i made sure i tried on gowns that had some sort of sleeve. Made me feel more comfortable. 

 

I took my mother with me shopping. I know she would never say anything that hurtful to me, but would tell me yes or no how something looked on me.

I never understood how people who were asked to come, to such a important event…could act like that. Tact? Morals? It is YOUR day, not theirs. *shakes head* i just never got that.

 

P.S. i am a street size 24

Post # 64
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@UpstateCait Sometimes I wonder how these women who were raised to be prim and proper come up with these things. My FI’s grandmother told me I was going to hell. straight up going to hell. And this was the first time we had met, she knew NOTHING about me, my religion, my morals, nothing.

And now she’s not coming to our wedding because we’re ‘living in sin’. I just let it roll of my back because at the end of the day she doesn’t know me from Eve. And if she feels comfortable making blazen assumptions about me, she’s not worth getting to know. At 84, there is no way that I’m going to change her mind about me. And that’s okay.

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Augh. I know this type of older person-it’s almost like they actually try to get away with saying rude things thinking that people will just “respect their elders” and not take issue with it. My stepdad’s mother was always mean to me because I wasn’t actually her son’s daughter. She also was a bitch to my mom. She would give both of us old magazines she didn’t want anymore and purposely mark the pages with articles on weight loss. She also once told my mom that she was “too broad and built like a farm-girl”. Who does that?? Rude people do, that’s who.

Some older people DO say very blunt things that can hurt your feelings, and I think that’s just how they are and they don’t mean offense at all.  But this woman, like my step-grandmother, sounds like she is quite purposely doing and saying things to hurt you. Just try your best not to give two shits about her ridiculous crap. I’m sure you’ll look great on your wedding day! 

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@bellemariee Thanks sweetie!

Post # 67
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG! DO not even let it get to you girl!

You will look fabulous on your wedding day and have tons of happy years to look forward to, where as your FGMIL …will be pushing up daisys in no time flat!

Hey maybe you should be sassy and where a red dress to her funeral…make sure its strapless! LOL

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just went wedding dress shopping three days ago for the first time.. and I automatically thought I wanted straps since I couldn’t pull off strapless because of my bust..  (34H).

But when I went to try on the straps, it felt awkward to me.  I was playing with them and didn’t suit me.  The halter tops were cut really low and I hated it.  I tried on strapless and it looked much better on me..  Which I was surprised.

So amazingly I am going to strapless route with a corset..  I tried on the Maggie Sorrento dresses and Mori Lees and the corset is amazing in them.  It makes you feel snug and secure and keeps your “stuff” from hanging out I felt.  I haven’t chosen my dress yet since I am picky and will do more shopping.. 

But don’t listen to your FGIL, she will change your mind once she sees you on your wedding day and how you look fabulous.  You can then prove her wrong.. Go with what looks great on you and makes you feel like a million bucks.  If you get a good person doing alterations the dress will look proper and fit great.

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Whoops my browser and internet connection was not working properly..  Kept saying nothing was submitted and I wasn’t connected to the internet..  🙁

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

ROCK WHAT YOU GOT GIRLY! YOU WILL LOOK BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT

 

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with the generation comments. My grandpa hates red shoes because prostitutes in the 1930s wore them (wtf?). So he’ll probably have a heart attack when I walk down the aisle in a red dress lol.

Just let it go. It would probably take more energy to go off on her about it because it won’t change her opinion. If you only see her occasionally, then brush it off. You know your body and what looks good on you, and I doubt you’ll slip into an unflattering dress on your big day. Use her comment as fuel to look breathtaking that day!

Post # 71
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow she obviously has no filter. I dont think that is true at all. I consider myself plus size my wedding dress is a 16. And I have seen tons of girls my size and up that look amazing in strapless. Honeslty but not all the time, its the dresses with straps or sleeves that end up making a bigger girl, or a big chested girl look broader than she really is. Thats not in all cases though. I wouldnt take it to personally though, as you said she always manages to offend someone. Im sorry it was you this time!! Im sure you are going to look like a beautiful bride on your big day.

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