(Closed) Strapless wedding gowns disrespectful??

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee

i would have never thought that, i think that strapless dresses are really in right now.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Sounds like some old-fashioned advice to me. I think she’s just saying that brides should cover their shoulders at the ceremony (which I guess is true in a conservative religious environment?). I wouldn’t take this seriously… no one else does, so if this is good manners, it’s going the way of the dinosaur.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t see anything wrong with strapless dresses for the guests OR the bride. A LOT of women’s formal wear is either strapless, has spaghetti straps, or is a halter. Besides…that’s why they sell boleros and wraps…

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s so strange.  I have never heard that they are disrespectful except maybe in a very conservative church.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Perhaps if the dress were revealing, then I would understand it being disrespectful. But I have seen a lot of strapless dresses that show a whole lot less than some dresses with straps!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with Miss Manners. I had a hard time finding a dress precisely because I felt a strapless dress was inappropriate for a church wedding. I had the same issue with spaghetti straps and with halters, or anything with a really low back or a slit up to the thigh. (For a civil ceremony, I have no such convictions). I don’t know if I would go so far as to say that it is outright disrespectful, but I know I wouldn’t wear a strapless topp to church on a regular Sunday and don’t see why being in church in a wedding is any different.

For the reception though, anything goes! I am seriously considering buying a few of the gowns I saw for opera visits because they were THAT downright gorgeous.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Some call it old fashioned, but I feel like it’s disrespectful to be wearing strapless in a church (unless I absolutely fall in LOVE with a strapless dress, I will have at least straps). I’m letting my bridesmaids pick out their own dresses, but I am going to ask them to either not buy strapless, or buy a shrug to wear during the ceremony. Our church isn’t really even that conservative, but it makes me uncomfortable! Of course, I’m uncomfortable with strapless in general so I might be biased.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

If it’s slutty, then it’s disrespectful. If all the proper bits are covered up and it’s not too revealing, go forth. :p

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Perhaps she could also offer some advice as to wear to shop for more respectful dresses, as 90% of what is offered in bridal shops is sans strap. 

Do what is right for your personal beliefs, venue, and ceremony.  The blanket generalization that all strapless dresses are inapropriate is what’s disrespectful to me.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

At some Catholic churches the bride is not allowed to wear strapless, actually, nobody is allowed to wear strapless.  

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

That’s actually true, I forgot about that. I’ve never been in a catholic church where bare shoulders were allowed, actually.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

To each their own – it really depends on the ceremony and the couple!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

hm, i’m having a catholic ceremony at a co-cathedral, my gown is strapless (and conservative) and it is allowed.  i went to 2 catholic weddings this summer and both brides wore strapless as well.  i’ve never heard of bare shoulders not allowed in the church…maybe its a regional thing?

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