(Closed) Straps vs. Strapless: Have your say…

posted 5 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m a bigger girl and I went strapless. I’ve always wanted a strapless dress and even though I’m self conscious I didn’t care. I felt like a princess and that’s what mattered.  I think you should wear your dress whichever way you want 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

If you like the dress as it is, wear it as it is.

I insisted on sleeves because I think strapless is really overdone these days and because we got married in a Catholic church, in a pretty conservative parish, and I would have felt inappropriate in a strapless gown. I also think sleeves make for a more interesting neckline, and I found something I loved. I probably would have felt self-conscious in a strapless gown, so finding something with sleeves alleviated any possibility of having to worry, which helped me to just relax and feel smiley and glowy all day. My $0.02

If you found something *you* love, however, go with it. You’ve seen the gown and your mom hasn’t. If it gives you that smiley, glowy feeling without straps – then go without straps.

Post # 6
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909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t think size determines whether you need straps or not but I have seen some woman with large busts nearly popping out so I think it depends on the person too. If you like it without straps then stick to your heart, go with what you love not what someone is telling you to wear.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Maria444:  Ugh, I’m sorry your mom rained on your parade. If you feel beautiful in the dress, it doesn’t matter if it’s strapless, cap sleeved, long sleeved, turtlenecked, or whatever. Focus on how YOU feel in it. Your Fiance will be enraptured with you and your beauty, and might I suggest that I don’t believe that he would think any amount of skin as too much!

 

Post # 8
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1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

If you felt comfortable and beautiful in your dress, rock it!  Did your mom see of a pic of you in your dress?  I’m sorry that she’s making you feel badly.  Maybe she is just saying all of that because of her own insecurities on her body shape and clothing?  Or maybe she was saying that to make you feel better about altering the dress (not that you even gave her an inkling about adding any coverage to the dress).  Sometimes moms jump the gun when it comes to protecting their kids (which is completely normal).  My dress is strapless (size 14 Maggie Sottero) and I’m not adding anything to it.  I would just tell your mom thanks for looking out for you but you really want to wear the dress as it is originally constructed.  🙂

Post # 11
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

@Maria444:  Have you thought about a bolero or something like that? They are removeable, so you can switch things up between the ceremony and reception if you want.

I ended up finding a long-sleeved lace overdress (not originally part of my gown, but it harmonized really well). I wore it for the ceremony and the beginning of the reception, then removed it for dinner and dancing (my gown underneath had spaghetti straps, which is next-door to strapless). I loved the flexibility of it.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m a size 36GG, and I swore I needed straps. Every single dress with straps made me look HUGE! I finally tried on some strapless dresses with corset back and I looked a whole lot better. Corset back is the way to go!

ETA: I am a size 16 as well. Here’s a pic!

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Maria444:  that’s a lovely dress, and I bet it makes you look great!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Maria444:  I tried on the Adelaide when I was looking at dresses too!

You do NOT have to add straps if you don’t want to. Sometimes strapless is more flattering than straps. I think you should bring your mom along and try on the dress for her, so that she can see not every dress needs straps.

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