Post # 1
FI and I have had our guest list for over a year – we came up with it before getting engaged and now that it’s time to send out the invites – I’m having second thoughts about some of the people on the list. I’m at the point where I want to buck all tradition and really just want to invite the people that are currently involved in FI and my life. If money wasn’t an issue, I would include them… but, now that we are getting down to the nitty, gritty, it seems like every person just adds “X” cost and why am I inviting people out of obligation??
The guests I’m questioning are some family friend’s kids – we all grew up together but have not talked in years. I was invited to their weddings – but we were much closer then (this is 8-15 years ago).
The problem is that I’ve inadvertently asked for their address (from their aunt, who is attending the wedding). So, now I feel a bit stuck – meaning, I’m SURE the aunt told them that I asked….
Post # 3
I did what you are thinking of doing and honestly? I couldn’t be happier ! So forget the old aunt. If these people are pretty much out of your life, they will either 1. probably understand or 2. don’t talk to you now so if they get offended and don’t talk to you later, what’s the difference ?? ha-ha.
Seriously, this is your day so enjoy it the way only YOU (and FI) envision it !
Post # 4
If it was a year ago they might not even remember that you have the address. We are only inviting people we are close with about 65. If the wedding was free we would invite a lot more but thats just how it is.
Post # 5
Don’t feel obligated. I did not invite everyone my parents would have for the simple fact that we wanted to keep the guest count down to 125. So, I had to only invite the people that mean the most to both my fiance and myself. If the person doesn’t even know that I have a FI, than they probably aren’t invited. I stopped worrying what other people thought a little while ago. I must say, I have no regrets about any of the wedding planning since then.
Post # 6
i used that logic to MAKE our guest list. basically i said – who cares if they are sad they arent invited? i never see them anyway!!!!
Post # 7
If the aunt asks whatever happened to her kids’ invitations, just tell her that you wanted their addresses to send out Christmas cards!