Strength During Divorce and Love After in Late 30's- Would Love More Stories-

posted 3 months ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Sorry, I’m not divorced but I’ll be 40 next week and met my FH 3.5 years ago after not believing I would ever find anyone.  Take the time you need to build yourself back up.  Online dating can be tough but give it a try and see what happens.  I was probably a little more selective in that I wouldn’t just go out with *anyone*, but that is only because I was secure in myself as a single person and only wanted to be with someone who was going to enhance my life.  It took me a few years and I had to take a few breaks, but I found a great guy and we are so happy. 

Post # 17
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Sugar bee

I was divorced when I was 27.  It took me  a good year of being alone and discovering why the marriage collapsed and what actions I had in the break up. I dated casually until I met my now husband, but it took me a while to open my heart to him.

And I can honestly say we’ve lived happily after, more or less {wink}

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

Amy Elizabeth :  I do move more quickly than a lot of people 🙂  I’m glad my story helped encourage you.  Go have fun!

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well, my wife me me when she was 41! She never thought she’d get married or have a baby. That was in 2011. Now we are married, have a 3 year old son, and built a house. Age is only a number!!! ❤️ Amy Elizabeth :  

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Wait, you aren’t divorced yet and are already on Bumble? Please take a breath. Take the time to heal before you jump into something else. Not to mention, Bumble is not really the place to meet a quality guy.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Lake side

anothernewbee16 :  thank you for sharing your story.I was also widowed at the age of 35 we had a 3 year old son at the time. That was 5 years ago and it is undescrible pain, however I was able to be happy again and I re married in August to an amazing man and he loves my son like he was his own. We have a true sense of family again and I never that was possible 5 years ago. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Amy Elizabeth :  I’m so sorry you are having a difficult time. You are being wonderfully brave in realising that your current life isn’t working for you! 

I left my husband at 33 and I was desperate for a family (he also changed his mind about kids). I went to counselling and made the decision to leave him and was devastated at the time because I still loved him very much. It was incredibly hard but absolutely the right thing to do.  I’m now 36 and lying in bed with my wonderful partner and my 6 month old son. I can now see my ex for who he truly was and I’m so so glad I left. He didn’t have my best interest at heart at all. 

When I was newly single I…

found a little flat for myself to live in and decorated it with girly flourishes – fairy lights everywhere! 

drank wine on my balcony with freshly re-kindled friendships 

shared kisses with new men, one who quickly became my favourite 

Treated myself to facials and self care

stated to paint again and had a market stall

 

when I was unhappily married I… 

stayed in my room

had no energy 

felt horrible about myself 

gained weight

Avoided friends and family 

stopped being creative 

 

Whether you meet someone new or not (and I truly hope you will if this is what you want) your life will be immeasurably better outside of this relationship. You will probably miss your husband a lot initially – he has been a big part of your life- but you will be ok. 

Xx

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I got divorced when I was 28 and I definitely remember feeling hopeless. However, I’ll be 32 this year and just got engaged to the love of my life, so keep your head up. 🙂

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Amy Elizabeth :  sending you lots of light and love for this chapter in your life! X 

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