Post # 16
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Helper bee
Sorry, I’m not divorced but I’ll be 40 next week and met my FH 3.5 years ago after not believing I would ever find anyone. Take the time you need to build yourself back up. Online dating can be tough but give it a try and see what happens. I was probably a little more selective in that I wouldn’t just go out with *anyone*, but that is only because I was secure in myself as a single person and only wanted to be with someone who was going to enhance my life. It took me a few years and I had to take a few breaks, but I found a great guy and we are so happy.
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
I was divorced when I was 27. It took me a good year of being alone and discovering why the marriage collapsed and what actions I had in the break up. I dated casually until I met my now husband, but it took me a while to open my heart to him.
And I can honestly say we’ve lived happily after, more or less {
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Post # 18
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Blushing bee
Amy Elizabeth : I do move more quickly than a lot of people 🙂 I’m glad my story helped encourage you. Go have fun!
Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
Well, my wife me me when she was 41! She never thought she’d get married or have a baby. That was in 2011. Now we are married, have a 3 year old son, and built a house. Age is only a number!!! ❤️ Amy Elizabeth :
Post # 20
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Busy bee
Wait, you aren’t divorced yet and are already on Bumble? Please take a breath. Take the time to heal before you jump into something else. Not to mention, Bumble is not really the place to meet a quality guy.
Post # 21
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Blushing bee
- Wedding: August 2018 - Lake side
anothernewbee16 : thank you for sharing your story.I was also widowed at the age of 35 we had a 3 year old son at the time. That was 5 years ago and it is undescrible pain, however I was able to be happy again and I re married in August to an amazing man and he loves my son like he was his own. We have a true sense of family again and I never that was possible 5 years ago.
Post # 22
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Helper bee
bespectacled1 : oh gosh so happy for you and thank you so much. Yes I just signed up for some apps!
Post # 23
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Helper bee
wrkbrk : OMG so cool! Congrats to you and thank you so much!
Post # 24
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Helper bee
luvingbee : I cannot imagine how hard that must of bad. Just terrible. But SO happy you found a wonderful man and you are a happy family now!
Post # 25
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Busy bee
Amy Elizabeth : I’m so sorry you are having a difficult time. You are being wonderfully brave in realising that your current life isn’t working for you!
I left my husband at 33 and I was desperate for a family (he also changed his mind about kids). I went to counselling and made the decision to leave him and was devastated at the time because I still loved him very much. It was incredibly hard but absolutely the right thing to do. I’m now 36 and lying in bed with my wonderful partner and my 6 month old son. I can now see my ex for who he truly was and I’m so so glad I left. He didn’t have my best interest at heart at all.
When I was newly single I…
found a little flat for myself to live in and decorated it with girly flourishes – fairy lights everywhere!
drank wine on my balcony with freshly re-kindled friendships
shared kisses with new men, one who quickly became my favourite
Treated myself to facials and self care
stated to paint again and had a market stall
when I was unhappily married I…
stayed in my room
had no energy
felt horrible about myself
gained weight
Avoided friends and family
stopped being creative
Whether you meet someone new or not (and I truly hope you will if this is what you want) your life will be immeasurably better outside of this relationship. You will probably miss your husband a lot initially – he has been a big part of your life- but you will be ok.
Xx
Post # 26
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Helper bee
ne11y23 : Oh gosh thank you so much for sharing!I didnt think about it this way. What an amazing story!
When I lived with this guy I:
*Was constantly scared about what was going to happen to us
*Felt bad that I was in a bad marriage
*Always heartbroken and rejected constantly
Now – heartbroken but there are changes
*I go out with my friends without answering to him.
*Am happy and comfortable in my own home without being ignored, treated badly, or insulted.
*Not anxious about wasting time with someone who isnt serious about a baby.
I am trying to go on online dates and haven’t seen anyone that I have liked but I am going to give people a chance.
Thank you so much again. And YES I would love to meet someone new and be in bed with a new partner and baby!
Post # 27
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Helper bee
beesinging : I like the “have fun” strategy! I have 2 dates this weekend and I am not excited about either one but I will focus on the fun!
Post # 28
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Bumble bee
I got divorced when I was 28 and I definitely remember feeling hopeless. However, I’ll be 32 this year and just got engaged to the love of my life, so keep your head up. 🙂
Post # 29
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Busy bee
Amy Elizabeth : sending you lots of light and love for this chapter in your life! X
Post # 30
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Helper bee
I had previously talked about us talking again and only got “ok” back. Some days later he asked did I want to get together again and talk. I didn’t respond to him. Doesn’t seem motivated to work things out and is flaky. Meetings to “work things out” are him angrily blaming me. Still has his mail coming to my apt and won’t forward it because “he doesn’t have a permanent address right now”. I sent any mail that I had to his buddy’s address (that my friend figured out) and included a letter that said I will no longer send or keep his mail. For some reason he hasnt wanted to give me his addy. I could’t care less. He still has my keys and key fob and hasn’t wanted to give that back. I changed the locks.
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