Stress and TTC

posted 2 weeks ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Puppies are cute but they are hard.  Could you get him/her a trainer?   Not having to do the training would lift a burden off your plate.

Otherwise, for straight stress management, I like to do a 15 minute guided meditation at night that I found on Spotify.  There’s also a stress relief eucalyptus candle from Bath & Body Works that helps me.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

How old are the kids? If there’s at least one over 11/12 years old then put that kid in charge of the puppy. You got the puppy for them, so they should be the primary caretakers. It will take that stress off of you. 🙂 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

It can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to get pregnant, even if you’ve had it way easier before. 3 months is not a long time to be TTCing at all.

In many recent studies, it’s the not getting pregnant part that causes the stress versus stress causing you not to get pregnant. So I don’t think you can blame your puppy or anything else necessarily. People are stressed and get pregnant all the time.

I would keep living life as you are but to try to take some time to do things for yourself that allow you to decompress.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

theresabow :  question….are all 6 yours too or his from a previous marriage/relationship?

The stress doesn’t make people not get pregnant, as previous posts have said. Take on yoga or some guided meditation, or a bubble bath or something in the evening before bed. Self care is important  

As for the dog, she’s not the one who chose to come into your lives. You brought her into yours. That being said, could an older child take on some responsibilities? Could you take the dog to obedience training to help nail down some good behaviors? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Echoing tulipdazey :, here it can take up to 12 months for a healthy couple to get pregnant. So don’t let that stress you out so much. Also echoing other pp’s you have 6 kids let them take care of the puppy some! Please don’t rehome the puppy just because it’s taking a bit longer to get pregnant.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

Sorry to hear that you are stressed! Acute stress may delay ovulation some months, but I think that’s more typically in the form of physical stress on the body. I agree with the PP that normal life stresses are typically not going to prevent an otherwise fertile couple from getting pregnant. Hopefully the kids can start taking more responsibility for the dog. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Of course the puppy is a handful. Puppies are always handfuls. That’s kind of their nature. Have you and the rest of the family been working to train the puppy? If you got her at Christmas, it’s probably at least six months old now and with proper training she should be housebroken and know simple commands at this point. 

Getting rid of your dog just because you haven’t gotten pregnant in three months is…not a great idea. I personally would think that stress comes more from six children than one dog.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

theresabow :  you’ve had six kids so I’m assuming you know that it can sometimes take a bit to get pregnant! Stress sucks but it won’t stop you from getting pregnant unless it is also stopping you from having sex. Take some time for self care and make sure those kids are taking care of their dog! My 2 year old feeds our dog as her primary chore (and she asks to pick up his poop but that’s not happening yet lol) so your kids can handle this. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

theresabow :  here’s a tip for the chewing. Get a bunch of dog toys and a basket for them. Give the puppy a toy to play with and then take it away and put it in the basket. Then encourage her to go get her toy out of the basket. Reward with treats and repeat repeat repeat. We did this and our dog knows the difference between his toys and our daughter’s. Otherwise dogs think everything on the floor is fair game! Train her to a toy basket. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

I just looked at your post history. OP you have written multiple posts about trouble with your husband, financial issues, etc. – and yet you’re deliberately trying to have a 7th baby right now? Are you sure that’s a good idea…?

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