Post # 1
Hi bees. Lately I have been extremely stressed with work. I have social anxiety and with my new job I need to do meetings with my employer and other employees. I get such terrible anxiety I don’t eat days before the meeting, I don’t sleep and the day of the meeting I am a mess. I get so awkward when I need to talk infront of everyone and stumble over my words, I get flushed and dry mouth. Heart is pouding. I always want to run out of that room and never come back!!!! I have actually considered quiting because I can’t handle this feeling anymore and I have a really great job. I will be so mean to Fiance and pretty much everyone in general when it is time for those meetings. I hate who I am when I feel like this.
I have lost so many friendships because of my anxiety. It really sucks.
All I want is to be a relaxed, easy going person who enjoys going out and doesn’t worry about little things or obsess about things.
Anyone else going through something like this? How do you deal or cope with anxiety?
Post # 3
Maybe a stupid question, but have you tried any medications?
Post # 4
I’m right there with you, girl. I’m the same exact way and it’s getting worse by the day.
I tried a couple of medications at one point but they made me violently ill. I rely on ativan on the very bad days which was helpful for a while – but no longer strong enough.
I definitely suggest talking with your GP if you haven’t already. I know how much anxiety can rule your life.
I’m already anxious about being a bridesmaid in one of my best friends wedding – and it’s 5 months away!!
Post # 6
If it is affecting your quality of life so much it is time to get help from a doctor or therapist or both. My Fiance suffers from anxiety and right now we are in a gap between insurance coverage so we are managing the best we can. We’ve found that a B complex plus zinc vitamin mix really makes a big difference in his anxiety levels.
Post # 7
Exercise helps me with anxiety!
Post # 8
I did therapy for a few years until I could manage on my own. When I get really bad I take some anxiety stuff that I got from a natural health food store. In your case, because it sounds like you are having a really tough time, I would suggest therapy and if not therapy then some medication. I would also try to do some yoga or meditation every night before bed.
Post # 9
Maybe try CBT for social anxiety with a clinical psych? There are some exposure-based programs that will target performance-based events like meetings.
Post # 10
I have a friend who used to go through this, not only at work but everyday life things too, so she finally decided to see a specialist. They gave her medication, which at the beginning will give you a lot of side effects, but then her body got with it and now functions just fine, at work and in life….she also goes to a therapist once a week too…try to look into it, it might help you…GL
Post # 11
@raisedonrobbery: Try Toastmasters.
A few years ago I was the same way. I’m super fair skinned and would turn BEET RED whenever I was expected to say something. I’d stumble over my words and feel like the biggest idiot.
I joined Toastmasters and it really helped. Google Toastmasters for your city and you’ll find a bunch of clubs.. they’re all over the world.
Now I’m a VP in my club and do a lot of leadership stuff as well.
I won’t lie.. I am still not a natural at giving presentations, but it’s a part of my job now. I never thought I could ever be at this point, though. I figured I could either spend the rest of my life like this, or be a successful person. We all have to work at things. I’m still very much an introvert, I just am a bit better in social situations now.
Post # 12
@canarydiamond: Toastmasters was a part of the exposure therapy my clinic used to use for social anxiety pts. It’s awesome!
ETA: As in, we sent people to Toastmaster’s to get some advanced presentation expertise, not that they were in any way affiliated with us – just to clarify 🙂
Post # 13
@raisedonrobbery: Although I do not have anxiety in the way that you do, I, like many people, certainly have experienced some stress and anxious feelings at various points in my life.
Because my Christian faith has so much to say about how to handle worry and anxious thoughts, I, personally, try to focus on what Scripture says about this, and that has been extremely helpful and comforting to me.
Some other things that you may find helpful are to tell yourself that you would not have the job that you have if your superiors did not have great confidence in you to do a good job. THEY must believe in you — so, you, being at a lower level than they are — should be able to have confidence in the gifts and talents within you as well.
Try to remind yourself that every person in that meeting has thoughts going on inside his or her head, too, and that, although people are not necessarily “fake” in the workplace, they are each playing the role of someone who holds a particular position within your organization, and every person there is trying to look as if he or she is knowledgeable and capable, even if some of them have doubts and fears, too.
Many of them also probably have to gather their thoughts, focus, and present information from time to time, or weigh in and comment on ideas presented by others. All (or at least most) of you likely are trying to work hard, do a good job, and gain and maintain the respect of others in the workplace. To do that, you each are trying to put your best foot forward in meetings. You don’t have to allow feelings of insecurity or anxiety to overwhelm you. You can take control of them and rest in the knowledge that you know what you’re doing and that other people like and respect you. 🙂
Post # 14
@Westwood: No I haven’t tried any medication, mostly because I don’t want to rely on medication but I think it’s come down to that.
@KateByDesign: Do you take any medication now? How do you cope with anxiety on those ‘bad’ days? How did you do on your wedding day? Sorry I’m asking so many questions but I don’t know anyone else who deals with anxiety. I feel sick to my stomach when I think about having to walk down the isle with 200 eyes staring at me.
@missporkchops: I think I will try therapy. The thought of telling a stranger face to face about my problems freaks me out. I’m not a very open person.
@Eckle: I also take those vitamins to help and I don’t notice it helping a whole lot unfortunetly. Does therapy help your Fiance anxiety?
Post # 15
@MrsWrangler: Cool, that’s good to know!! I am generally not a person who likes to join stuff, but I met such good people at my club… it’s great for networking, making friends, and of course developing the speaking/leadership skills. I really like it.. it’s a safe environment and fun.
I think that it’s at least partially true that exposing yourself to your fear gradually helps you cope w. it better.
Post # 16
Edit: double post… seems to be happening a lot today!!