Post # 1
So I know I am getting engaged in February (although my SO doesn’t know I’ve found out his secret- he needs to learn to remove receipts from his pants before I wash them!)
But the initial excitement is being overwhelemed by a lot of stress. I’m already freaking out about our budget and how we will afford the wedding, whether our families will help, how long our engagement will be etc.
I’m worried it will affect the proposal and I won’t be as excited. Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to marry him. It’s just the logisitics which make me anxious (I should say I am a very anxious person).
Did anyone else experience this? What should I do? Do you think when it actually happens I will be overwhelmed with emotion and happiness and some of these stresses will disappear?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead
@futurejhart: We appear to be long-lost twins as of right now because my situation is practially IDENTICAL! I have a feeling SO will likely propose in February because he said he wants us to take a trip for Valentine’s Day and we NEVER have traveled for V-day. Usually, flowers, dinner, and small gift exchange. He and I have made so many plans for the wedding already, already have a date, have a list of venues we are trying to choose between, have begun putting figures in our budget spreadsheet, bought artificial flowers for the bridal party (found an awsome sale on ebay), and been in touch with a planner, and with all of this, might I say I am ALREADY HATING wedding planning! I am SO glad that we started early so that it could give us an idea of how much this whole thing was really going to cost us but it also made me more and more eager to be engaged already because I felt so crazy making this many decisions without it being official. All in all, I’ll say that I am currently at the mindset where I am over it, and maybe that is best. I have probably experienced every wave of emotion you can imagine since SO put this engagement/wedding planning bug in my ear Dec 2012 and I am really at the point where I am pretty numb when I think about it. I am still excited about being engaged but now I think because I am worrying less, I am helping to ensure I’ll still be excited and surprised once he makes that move. I think that if you can get to this place too and really just toss it out of your mind – tell yourself February is so far away no need to even think about it because most important it will come in its own time and all of the other details with wedding planning will fall into place – then you will guarantee your proposal will be all you hoped for, as far as exciting and memorable, and more! Can’t wait to check in with you closer to V-day so we can see how we are holding up!
Post # 4
@ComputerLove06: Thank you! I feel so much better knowing someone is in the same position. I will do my best to push it out of my head! And will definitely check in around Feb!
Post # 5
@futurejhart: Deep breaths–calm down!! Try to not be stressed out, as you mentioned, you are not engaged yet. I mean this in the BEST way–but try to not get ahead of yourself–what if your SO realizes you can’t afford a wedding, and delays the proposal by 6 months and it’s not in Feb?
If it does happen in Feb, great! However, I don’t think it’s ever too soon to start saving. I started a savings account for SO and I so that we won’t have this to stress us out whenever we do get engaged. Perhaps you can start saving too?
Post # 6
@veryberry13: What a great idea! I might just start a little savings account myself! That would realllyyyyy lower the stress level when we do start planning a wedding!