- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club
Hi bees! 🙂
I swear, the last three months leading up to the wedding FLEW by. Insane wedding-week drama, a blurry rehearsal, and a stressful day-of all led up to the most PERFECT day I could have ever hoped for! It’s kind of a lot, so I guess I’ll break it all down, hahahaha.
WEDDING WEEK DRAMA: Four days before the wedding, I get a text from one of my bridesmaids on my way to my internship. In short, it was pretty much “Hey! I got a job interview Friday through Sunday, so I can’t be in your wedding anymore. Sorry. Have a good wedding!”
^^ Pretty much my initial reaction. Which quickly turned into volcanic rage – she’d known about this wedding for 18 months, and couldn’t be bothered to give me a week’s notice before backing out. It was a horrible, painful realization about what our friendship actually meant to her, and I was reeling. I was tyring to balance a full course load in a graduate program, plan this wedding, and try to enjoy everything.
I was able to collect myself enough to not completely eviscerate her through text, and send a stiff, polite reply instead. She didn’t end up getting the job (karma, I’d like to believe) and I pretty much wrote off our friendship altogether. However, this left me with a new dilemma: finding a bridesmaid to take her place.
It ended up working out the way I wanted all along: I’d always told my best friend in graduate school that I wish I’d waited longer to pick bridesmaids, because I REALLY wanted her up there with me (I would’ve picked her instead of the girl who backed out). So when all this nonsense went down, she was the first person I asked – and she said yes! <3
This girl literally dropped everything, overnighted a dress, and stepped up to be in my wedding. It couldn’t have worked out better!
REHEARSAL DRAMA: I’d been running on essentially no sleep for a week in order to get all my school work done before the wedding (so I wouldn’t have to worry about deadlines on my wedding day). Trying frantically to get last minute details done before making the 90 minute drive to the venue for the rehearsal, and was cutting/folding escort cards in the car on the way up. I ended up smearing my nails at my nail appointment (which they fixed), running late for my final fitting (which ended up costing almost $300 more than we agreed on), and on top of everything else: LOSING MY FREAKING PHONE minutes before leaving for the rehearsal.
At that point, I was trying desperately not to sob and ruin my full face of makeup. And after fruitlessly tearing apart our apartment and my car, had to leave without it. This was a logistical nightmare, as literally ALL the contact information for the vendors was in my phone. I finally managed to get in contact with everyone through my now-husband’s phone, and was actually able to enjoy a good rehearsal, a wonderful dinner, and end my last night before the wedding with relative peace.
WEDDING DAY DRAMA: Let me preface this all by saying that this stuff had been brewing for a hot minute, and just came to a head at the most inopportune time: One of my bridesmaids has been separated from her husband for the better part of three years now, but can’t quite bring herself to divorce him as they go through periods of time when everything is good, and the cyclical nature of the relationship keeps her coming back. During their separation, both parties slept with other people. My bridesmaid ended up sleeping with the best man on one of these off periods, and they began a tumultous “is it hooking up or is it more” rapport, which neither the groom nor I were thrilled about.
About three weeks before the wedding, my bridesmaid came to me and said she wanted to bring her estranged husband as her plus one, as things were good. Being a good friend, I wanted to allow it…with the caveat that the husband knows about her sleeping with the best man. She assured me things were okay, and I allowed it. Bringing us to the wedding day:
It’s finally the morning of the wedding, and things are off to a rough start when we start late on everyone’s hair. Everyone reassures me we’ll start on time (5pm), and I calm down. About midway through the day, we’re all having a good time when all of a sudden, my bridesmaid comes to me crying: her husband found out about the best man and was furious, was calling her names, etc. Just immediately overwhelming me whilst in the middle of giving directions to vendors, speaking with venue coordinators, and monitoring the hair/makeup rotations to make sure we kept everything moving.
Thank god my Maid/Matron of Honor overheard – she pretty much grabbed her by the arm and whisked her away. Not sure what she ended up saying to her, because she was calm and sedated 30 minutes later. Either way, I’m exceedingly grateful.
It’s now 20 minutes before the ceremony: I still have a bridesmaid getting her hair curled, people are still getting dressed, and I’m about ready to have a panic attack. The pastor almost seemed to sense this, because he walked in to check on things, saw me in a state of panic, and prayed with me for a couple minutes (which helped level everything out for me a bit).
Ten minutes before the start of the ceremony, I have my first look with my dad, the carriage picks us up, and we’re off to the races!
THE WEDDING: Finally, after all the rushing, drama, and stress…it was time to start everything. The ceremony started at 5pm on the dot, I got my grand entrance, and everything was absolutely perfect!
The timing of the music was perfect, the ceremony was perfect, the weather was gloomy (but perfect), my guests didn’t have their phones out, and the reception was amazing! It all seemed to go by in a flash, but it was more than I ever hoped for. We couldn’t be happier with the way things turned out. 🙂
Here’s some of our favorite moments – I still can’t believe how beautiful everything turned out! <3
^^ First look: seeing me arrive in the carriage! <3
Wedding cake with hidden Mickeys and Batman symbols <3
He’s a semi-pro football player: naturally we had to put the garter on a football for him to toss 😛
His: gold inlaid with dinosaur bone Hers: heirloom old European miner’s cut diamond with setting custom-designed by groom