- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I need some insight from fellow bride-to-be’ers. My mom passed away 5 years ago, so planning a wedding without a mom has been tough enough as it is. Luckily, my dad is great and I am fortunate enough to be able to hire a wedding planner to help out with the typical mother of the bride stuff…
However, I have an aunt who is driving me crazy. She is trying to push herself in to my plans, offering unsolicited advice, trying to be the “mother” figure. She even said to me at my mom’s funeral, that she was going to take me dress shopping when I get married ( and i was single then!)
The thing is, her own daughter (my cousin) is planning a wedding that will be 3 months before mine, and my cousin isn’t even including her own mother in her plans! It’s like my aunt expects me to pick up the slack for the experience her own daughter won’t provide. My dad says that i should include my aunt so that I dont cause family drama…but to be honest, my aunt doesn’t know my style at all and has such a knack for over-complicating things and making them stressful, I don’t want to. Just as an example, I went shopping with her once for a ball and it took 2 hours! My grandma already cancelled coming down to go dress shopping with me, my dad’s girlfriend (who i actually like and want to include) and my maid of honor because she doesn’t know how to do it without my aunt inviting herself along and stressing everyone out by her presence (besides, that would just be way too many people at the appointment) . Am I in the wrong here by not feeling obligated to include anyone I don’t want to?