(Closed) stress kills, and I don't wanna die young!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: do you stress yourself out?
    OMG, all the time about everything! : (59 votes)
    66 %
    yes, but only over big things : (21 votes)
    23 %
    meh, rarely. : (9 votes)
    10 %
    no! never. : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @princess-pea:  Same here. If I don’t have something to worry about, I create something. Interested to see the responses!

    Post # 4
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Lately I have been so stressed out about a crap ton of stuff going on and the new house and the wedding in 2.5 months I seriously have been making myself sick! I think Im going to end up with a stomach ulcer! :/ I cant wait to just have the wedding be over and go on the honeymoon!!!

    Post # 5
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    8446 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I guess I don’t really stress that much, but then again I don’t work, my Fiance is awesome, and I don’t have siblings/family nearby.  I’m a huge fan of yoga for stress though.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    You sound like my SO.  He’s definitely the stresser in our relationship. I’ve tried to get him to see a therapist about handling stress better, but he said the thought of going to a therapist stresses him out. haha. It takes a lot to stress me out, and even then, I usually find a productive way to manage it. For example, if I just have a ton of things to do, I’ll make a super detailed list/schedule and stick to it so I know I’ll get everythig done. I usually approach things with the mindset that everything is going to work out and be okay, so most things don’t seem stressful to me.

    Post # 7
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    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’ve been stressed 24/7 recently, but that’s because my SO and I are working on submitting immigration paperwork for him to come to the US. It’s the most stressful thing I’ve ever done! I feel like by the time this is over I’ll have more gray hair than any other 23 year old.

    Post # 8
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m possibly the most constantly stressed out person to have ever lived. Seriously, it’s terrible. As soon as I hand in my final essay this week I’m making a concious effort to STOP stressing out!!!!

    Post # 9
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    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    *raises hand*

    I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Everything stresses me out, it’s very rare that I’m calm. I’m TTC so I’m not on medication. I need to find ways to chill out.

    Post # 10
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    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    As I’ve aged, I’m less stressed about stuff. I used to be stressed about everything, but right now, life is just really awesome. It’s 72 degrees outside and sunny today, I have my dream career and dream man, wonderful pets, loving family… 

    When I do have stress, I find a long walk with my dogs and my husband really help me out.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think the moment you have kids the stress level increases. especially if they have an illness or disability.  Egads! Constant worry…are they happy? Do they have friends? How are they doing in school? Etc…. it’s never ending ! 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @princess-pea:  Try acceptance…this passage has literally changed my whole life. I can now handle life on life’s terms. It is a very widely known reading from the Big Book of AA, but anyone can apply the sames principles to their own lives. It takes practice, though.

     

    “And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation — some fact of my life — unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.

    Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

    For me, serenity began when I learned to distinguish between those things that I could change and those I could not. When I admitted that there were people, places, things, and situations over which I was totally powerless, those things began to lose their power over me. I learned that everyone has the right to make their own mistakes, and learn from them, without my interference, judgment, or assistance!

    The key to my serenity is acceptance. But “acceptance” does not mean that I have to like it, condone it, or even ignore it. What it does mean is I am powerless to do anything about it… and I have to accept that fact.

    Nor does it mean that I have to accept “unacceptable behavoir.” Today I have choices. I no longer have to accept abuse in any form. I can choose to walk away, even if it means stepping out into the unknown. I no longer have to fear “change” or the unknown. I can merely accept it as part of the journey.

    I spent years trying to change things in my life over which I was powerless, but did not know it. I threatened, scolded, manipulated, coerced, pleaded, begged, pouted, bribed and generally tried everything I could to make the situation better — only to watch as things always got progressively worse.

    I spent so much time trying to change the things I could not change, it never once occurred to me to simply accept them as they were.

    Now when things in my life are not going the way I planned them, or downright bad things happen, I can remind myself that whatever is going on is not happening by accident. There’s a reason for it and it is not always meant for me to know what that reason is.

    That change in attitude has been the key to happiness for me. I know I am not the only who has found that serenity.”

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I do not really stress a lot, mainly because I have nothing to stress over. I am also pretty good at asking myself this question, “Why do I care about this so much? Why am I letting it bother me?”

     My husband has a pretty stressful job so he stresses a lot. He has bad road rage and tends to let things bother him all the time. It dosn’t help that he is a stress smoker either. I think it is good we are together, if I was high stressed I think that would make him worst!

    I do stress over big things though, to the point where I can’t sleep. Later on I realize it was silly when everything worked out just fine.

    Post # 14
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    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @princess-pea:  I used to stress all the time about everything ever. I’m a lot calmer now, due to living in a tropical paradise, acupuncture, etc. I’m still not a RELAXED person, though :-X

    Post # 15
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    1262 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    @princess-pea:  I am very anxious and I stress over everything. Even the little things, like being on time for something. And it really sucks, becuase most of the time people that don’t think like that just don’t understand. 

     

    Hearing ‘you’re being overdramatic’ and ‘just get over it’ are always the worst things ever, and since that became peoples’ response I just stopped being as open about my feelings.

     

    The only thing that seems to combat my stress is working out. I get out all that nervous energy and then I can proceed calmly from there. It takes a lot of willpower to get up early in the morning before class/work and to go lift weights or walk on the treadmill, but I definitely don’t get worked up as easily afterwards.

     

    Post # 16
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    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Stress causes 60% of all illness.

    After reading that, I definitely wanted to keep stress to a minimum. The thing that calms me down is saying- Can I fix what is worrying me? If no, why worry? If yes, why worry?

    I tend to dwell on issues to find the best way to fix them, but usually it doesn’t help. Either I know fairly quickly how to fix something, or I know I can’t fix it. I’ve gotten better about it though, I don’t really stress all that much anymore.

    I 100% believe the pp who said that kids add a lot of stress too. I don’t have kids, but to me my animals are like my children and I worry about them quite a bit, so I imagine that it’s the same way with children. Last night, one of my horses cut their leg, dear god I freaked out (it happens that Fiance has left for a couple of days too, which is very rare, so that was not helping). I spent hours googling, calling people, applying water and antibacterial spray to the cut. I know a fair bit about what to do in these situations too, I can handle quite a bit and have a lot of medications and a vet that will tell me what to do over the phone if needed, but any little thing that goes wrong with one of my furkids instantly makes me worry, even if it doesn’t seem like a big deal to other people.

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