Post # 17
Yep. We’re eloping with some friends on a ski vacation in March and then having a party in September. Once we decided to do that, it got much more pleasant. Having a ceremony and party in one weekend would have been drudgery for both of us.
Post # 18
I, originally, said that I would go someone, just us and the parents and siblings and then send out wedding announcements. Then, we said we didn’t want the first time that our families would come together to be a funeral, so we went ahead with the wedding.
WHAT IN THE FEEZY WAS I THINKING?!
I, mean, don’t get me wrong…..I think my day will be a day to remember for Fi and I, but the pickiness of some of the attendants and the COST of this dang reception because the guest list from our parents keeps getting bigger (and our hands are out asking for money, too!!)…..JoP is looking better and better….
Post # 19
well, i am stressed. on some days, a lot.
i’m planning a wedding while living with my mother who doesn’t agree with all my decisions, wants to invite more guests, and is not giving me any money.
talking to my Fiance on the phone (ld engagement) helps a lot. webcam too. and i cry. often. basically, i have no advice, lol.
Post # 20
Haha, yes, definitely. I recently wrote a post to vent my frustration. I think it helps to vent once in a while and to know that others have had the similar experiences. =)
Post # 21
definitely. ive made the mistake of mentioning this throughout the planning to people at random "i think we should just elope" and have gotten death stares. oops. i mention it to my Fiance at least weekly, especially when new tasks pop up. i would totally do a small city hall ceremony & then throw a party. the only thing i’d do is get personalized match books & cocktail napkins, a few bottles of nice champagne, and a short random white dress, and go for it. with weddings you’re dealing with not only your own expectations about how you should do things but also your families. compromise is key. weddings are for the families. marriage is for the couple. if the wedding were REALLY about just Fi & I beginning to spend our lives together, i’d def do it in city hall.
Post # 22
so i guess my answer to your second question is, i get back on track by acknowledging the fact that we have to do it to make our families happy, and in turn, that makes me happy.