(Closed) Stress of the week…stress of my current life

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you are so stressed.  When do you go ot hte doctor again for the test?

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No good!  I hope the results are okay though!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry to hear about the abnormal results. I went through that myself a few years ago and eventually went in for an outpatient procedure to remove the abnormal cells. I’ve been clear the past few times I’ve gone into the doctor, but I still get nervous every time worried that it might pop back up. Feel free to PM me if you want to commiserate or talk about it. It’s definitely stressful, especially when you can’t do anything but wait!

As far as my stressful week life… SO and I are in the process of buying a house and plan to move at the end of the month. I feel like I have a million things to do but no time to do them! Why can’t there just be more days in the week?

Post # 9
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My vent of the day; we are moving house on friday and not a huge lot of stuff has even been packed away yet!what doesnt help is we are both working all of this week,but Fiance expects me to somehow get it all done,because if it was left to him our packing would all be done friday morning lol!

Grr just getting a little stressy cos Im tired as well as fed up lol

@bridalblush-I hope everything goes well for you x

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve had a biopsy done for abnormal cells, but I didn’t have to have the LEEP done. My thought are with you! I have endometrosis and when my pap smears were coming back abnormal, I had to go to the gyno every 3 months. My reproductive system hates me.

My vent: My 18 year old brother and 22 year old brother are going to be dads this year (and having kids before me). I just found out that my 22 year old brother is also getting married before me in May. I know I sound like a brat, but since they beat me to having kids, I thought I would at least make it to the alter first since I’ve been engaged since last July. My family thinks I’m supposed to feel better since he’s just having a JoP wedding. This is also the same brother that threatened to kill my fiance while we were all home for my granddaddy’s funeral.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Bridalblush: Oh that is scary! I hope everything works out okay! My cousin was told that a few years ago and it turned out to be nothing!

This is perfect actually. I needed this. I apologize in advance because this is going to be long!

I am currently frustrated because of the way I was treated by Future Mother-In-Law yesterday.

Backstory: Fi’s family has never been that easy to get along with and have been very mean to be on several occasions. However, recently his parents have been very nice to me and this meant a lot to me.  His sister has been mad because of all of the money we are spending on the wedding. My parents are paying for most of it and Fi and I are contributing to the things my parents will allow us to pay for. Our wedding will end up costing about $8,000. Fi is constantly helping his sister with something such as a home project or watching her sons. Which I think is great until she gets angry for him not doing something or giving him a guilt trip for not taking her sons somewhere that month. Fi is a police officer and works evenings or overnights so this is sometimes difficult. Either way he does see them at his parents’ house on the weekends. Don’t get me wrong, I love my nephews. I love spending time with them and I love making them happy. This is well known because of the instances I have gone out of my way to find the specific rare pillow pet or getting them a movie they wanted to see in theatres, but never had the chance.

A few weeks ago Fi had spent the entire day helping his sister and her husband clear their land for their new home. He had been out there on both his days off for the three weeks before. Towards the end of the day my mom asked if we would go to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo with her, my sister (17 years old), and my dad after I got off of work. Fi loves the rodeo. I have been so many times that it isn’t really appealing to me anymore, but I wasn’t going to pass up an opportunity like that for him. Our rodeo is one of the largest in the world. It has a lot of adult events in the evening and some for small children that run mostly during the day. Fi mentioned being excited to his sister and she said that we should take her 5 year old because he likes animals. We wouldn’t be getting him until very late that evening so she said that he could miss school the next day. He told her he would think about it and talk it over with me. When Fi called to tell me I reminded him that the animal exhibits for kids wouldn’t be open by the time we got there and that he would probably get tired since it would be a lot of walking and he had been at school all day. I was really excited to show him the animals since I had done 4-H and FFA until I graduated high school. Fi said he kind of wanted to do some adult things and that his nephew probably wouldn’t enjoy it. I told him I would really like to take him and show him everything though so we decided to take him the following week.    Fi called his sister back to tell her that “we” had decided to take him next week. Without him knowing she blew up and called their mom. Which led to their mom calling Fi to yell at him because I said we couldn’t take our nephew. Fi asked her what she was talking about because we had decided together. She didn’t believe him and it escalated from there. Fi got extremely angry (which is not a typical trait for him) and called his sister back. She him (no, I am seriously not kidding I heard the conversation) that he needs to control me because he should be the stronger person and tell me what to do. She said that she controls her husband because he likes to be told what to do. She also said she felt like she was losing her brother when we get married because she thinks he won’t be around as much. He told her that if she keeps her behavior up that she was going to lose him because he cannot tolerate her acting like that. There was more said, but you can understand the major conflicts. He went a week or so refusing to talk to his mom or sister despite my encouragement.

 As for the current issue stressing me out about Fi’s mom… When I was there yesterday, nothing was said that was clearly wrong, I was just ignored. When she did not ignore me she spoke to me like I was an idiot and was very abrupt. She didn’t smile once and it was very obvious how she felt. This doesn’t surprise me. It just reiterates that the cycle will continue. I know everything will be fine because Fi and I have a very strong relationship, but I just hate that it has to be this way.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve been working 70 hours a week for almost two months and haven’t had a day off (meaning working 7 days a week) since the last weekend in January.  My work load was kinda light so I thought I could take ONE day off this weekend and my Fiance was SOOO excited.  Just got back from a department meeting and we’ll be working 12 hours on Saturday and 12 hours on Sunday.  I’m SO PO’d right now.  I know I chose to work where I’m working, but I REALLY wanted this day off and I’m SO upset right now.  Now I get to email my Fiance and tell him I’m working and then hear how PO’d he is at me for telling him I might have a day off.  I hope it’s Friday somewhere, cuz it sure doesn’t feel like it to me.

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