(Closed) Stress Related to the Big Day and.. other stuff

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You are definitely not alone. The stress before my wedding became almost unbearable. When the day came, it was beautiful and wonderful.

I watched episodes of the old TV show Gomer Pyle to make me laugh and calm down. I was told by several people that they could not sleep the night before their wedding. Didn’t think that would happen to me, but the night before I found I could not fall asleep. (I had a prescription for sleep medicine, occasional use, and took one of those.)

There is so much to a wedding that it is hard to avoid this stress. My maid of honor was a big help. Is there someone you can turn to?

Post # 3
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1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A couple of additional thoughts: Do you really want to go to a big event one week after your wedding? I think people might understand if you could not go (although I do not know what it is obviously).

If you are getting married and moving at the same time, of course, that is additional stress. I also did not move in with my husband until I was married. Hopefully, you have some overlap, and can move some of your stuff slowly.

Post # 4
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1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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hannahjoyce1997:  Spend some time with your Fiance, or your best friend, or mom – whomever, and don’t talk about wedding stuff.  If with your Fiance, open some pints of ice cream, binge watch your fav show, go watch sports- whatever you do before wedding planning came along.  Focus on marriage, not wedding, and let the things outside of your control go.

It’s very hard, and I’m dreading the last month of planning because I know I’ll be in the same state as you!  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I feel ya…our wedding is May…and still LOTS to do.

We had a short engagement, 9 months…and the last year has been a whirlwind… (of stress, if I think about it: quit job of 11 years, get new job, quit after 3 months w/ no job lined up, moved in w/ Fiance, health issues, get new job/completely different industry/brand new, got engaged, started new job, planning wedding, grandma died, renewed for 1 yr at job…job is one I’m constantly working on bc it’s teaching, never taught before so lots of prep, grading, etc).

I cannot wait for semester to be over and 2-3 weeks to breathe before wedding. Then 1 month after wedding honeymoon. ..very, very excited about that!

– I find exercise/yoga helps me. If I’m going too busy and don’t get to do it, I get even more stressed/irritable. 

– Try to keep your days off/weekends free/available. You prob gave wedding things but take time for yourself & Fiance. Don’t say yes to everything  (i.e favors,  friends who want to go out, etc.). Two wknds in a row Fiance & I, fkr once, actually had no plans which was awesome, we could do or not do anything that came up.

– enjoy this time and moment, when it’s done you’ll be married! (I should take my own advice)

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