(Closed) Stressed!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I totally understand. My wedding is Aug. 15 and we have a lot left to do. I too am doing it all by myself (except my fiance is helping a lot, so he actually gets why I’m so stressed.) What about giving your fiance certain things to be in charge of? Mine did: Photography, Honeymoon, Tuxes for the guys, anything to do with the officient and music. It’s working out well because it’s taking things off my plate, and also stressing him out, so he doesn’t think I’m a crazy woman! Hang in there!

Post # 4
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think the best thing to do would be to sit down with your Fiance and explain to him that you’re not getting any support or help from either of your families in planning the wedding and that it would really help you relax if he could take on a few key responsibilities.

Just be aware that if you delagate something to him, you should be prepared to LET GO. Give him a time table out front for how soon you need something done and mention it only once 1 week before it needs to be done. "Hey, let’s get together X day and discuss our plans for music/photography/whatever else." That way you remind him without nagging.

These are really reminders for myself, as much as you. I have such a hard time letting things go and letting other people help!

 

Post # 5
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112 posts
Blushing bee

I think you should strongly consider hiring a wedding planner. It can be so worth spending a little extra to have someone working along side you who knows what they’re doing, and can take a TON of stress off your shoulders! It might seem like an extravagance, but look into packages that planners offer. Some even do a ‘Day Of’ service (which would cost less than full planning), but are willing to add in some extra meetings in the prior months to help you out with details. Being able to relax and enjoy your day stress-free is priceless. Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

Post # 7
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Good tip from MsBunny. If you delegate, you can’t really "follow-up" as it will bug him. A wedding coordinator would be amazing if you can afford it. 

Post # 8
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1044 posts
Bumble bee

I know exactly how you feel because I’m getting married in July and don’t feel ready at all.  I still have to get a photographer, florist, videographer, and DJ and don’t seem to have enough time in a day.

Thankfully, my mom is well enough to help.  I wish my Maid/Matron of Honor lived closer so she could as well.  Have you considered asking your bridesmaids to help out?

Post # 9
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m in the same boat, doing it all myself is wearing me down and at this point I think I regret not simply getting married at the courthouse. Hang in there, the bees won’t let you down. Everytime I feel overwhelmed, I come here for support! 

Post # 10
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119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would definitely try to delegate to your Fiance.  Mine has specific tasks: transportation, dj and honeymoon.  All things that I knew he would enjoy planning.  He knows he has to do them and I don’t bother him about doing them, but I do make a point of telling him when I cross something off my to-do list so he’s reminded of his.  He also knows he will face my wrath if he doesn’t get them done  haha

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