(Closed) Stressed about guest

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bridetobe85:  We are seriously considering not having a reception following our destination wedding for a similar reason.  There is an entire group of female “friends” that we feel are only going to come to gossip and critique our choices while enjoying free-flowing liquor and food on our dime.  And, unfortunately, we have to invite some of them because of who they’re with. 


Obviously, I’m not suggesting you do something as drastic as cancel anything (though we probably will), but it kind of sounds like since it’s your FI’s good buddy’s Fiance, you are stuck with him.  She is just one person, I say let her come and make a fool of herself.

Post # 5
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Since she’ll be there as her husband’s date, hopefully that’ll lead her to act a little more appropriately. That does suck that you had to invite her, but if anything gets out of hand or if they’re mean to you I’m sure your husband (!) will stick up for you and ask his bud to talk to her. Focus on the happiness of the day, honestly you’re going to be in a cloud and not even notice this girl. You may want to seat her as far away from you and hubs as possible though ; )

Post # 7
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@bridetobe85:  I had to invite some not so stellar guests to our wedding too.  I was stressing on it for a little while but the more I look at the guest list, I realize the number of positive, loving, supportive guests attending far outweigh the handful of downer debbies.  Try not to be resentful that she will be using your day as an opportunity to create negativity and gossip, instead you can feel sorry for her since that is her pathetic existence.  Leave it to your hubby to visit their table and thank them for coming and surround yourself with your true friends!!

Post # 8
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bridetobe85:  I agree that you should do something about seating. I would put her as far away as possible and even possibly not sit all of those people together at one table. Maybe if you split them up they will be less likely to be able to freely gossip about  you. Sorry you are in this situation, I know that it sucks to have to invite people because of etiquette and not really like them.


Post # 9
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was forced to invite FI’s good friend with his nasty wife. A woman who claims to be a “good christian” and in the same conversation stay nasty things about our relationship. Fingers crossed still that at least she won’t show…they live about 5 minutes from us and have yet to RSVP…Just remember there will always be atleast one person in a group that you dont care for. Its you day, Do as you please!! I hope it works out for you!!

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