- 7 years ago
Looking for advice on how to maintain authenticity and not get carried away by worries. I grew up in a stressful home where I was held responsible for the moods and happiness of others, and I still have some relationships that cause me to constantly worry about how I am being perceived, if someone is mad at me, if they don’t like me, etc. More alarmingly, I sometimes insert these fears into relationships that really don’t induce them – like that with my fiance. He’s great and supportive and I know I don’t always need to be worried about how I come across. I ask people if they’re mad at me all the time. I have trouble taking actions at face value and often wonder if there’s something deeper about me that is turning others away. The somewhat disfunctional family relationships I have reinforce this. I really want to stop. The buildup to the wedding seems to be what’s bringing this out of me or intensifying it. I need to learn a middle ground between being consumed with worry over how I’m coming across and just not giving a f. Anyone been here and have advice? Much appreciated.