(Closed) Stressed about uncooperative BM…(LONG)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1335 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all this. I think Bridesmaid or Best Man #2 needs to have a real heart-to-heart with you or Bridesmaid or Best Man #1 to see what is really going on in her life. So you can find out if she is really so busy. Or if she is just making excuses because she no longer wants to be a bm but doesn’t know how to tell you.

She may be having financial difficulties since you mentioned she cannot afford the dress or a shower right now. That can be very akward to share. So you should continue to be understanding. But you also deserve the same courtesy in return. She shouldn’t treat her friends this way.

Post # 4
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Lets see, I am coming to the close of my planning, and the best advice I can give is cut out stress. You cannot control everything, but least of all others actions.  If she doesn’t get the fabric, she isn’t in the wedding. I would go with Bridesmaid or Best Man #1, pick out the fabric, let BM#2 know what it is, and that she needs to go on her own to get it by ___ date, otherwise, she will have to step down, because she won’t have the dress.  That leaves the ball in her court, and you are not the bridezilla who would be kicking her out of the bridal party.  

You should be surrounded by girls who love you and want to support you.  Perhaps your pregnant friend could stand up with you anyway??


Good luck Dear!  Most important, you are marring your true love – Keep your eye on the long term goal here 🙂

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