- 7 years ago
Hello Bees. Regular bee going anon. My main account is descriptive…
Back History: Fiance and I have been together for 8 years. Throughout Grade 11 in high school to now, myself soon to be graduating university. We’ve been from long distance for 2 years while I was away for schooling, and now we own a house and a cat. We’re getting married in mid May. I’m asking for advice… I have had anger issues and still do. In my early years of university I went to a school counselor to talk about my anger problems. I was never physically mad, just jump to conclusions and speak without thinking. I was doing well, and quit going after about 8 months.
Now, I am away from home in a different city for school for practicum and graduating in early May. We JUST bought a house and moved into the house during my first week of placement, being away. So I’ve been in the motel in the other city longer and more often than our house. I’m upset and lonely out here. 🙁 NOW. Fiance and I have ‘fought’ more often than not lately. I was home this past weekend and we fought every night. When I’m home, I work on my weekends. I come home Friday nights, work Saturdays, and head out to the city again Sunday.
I get set off by anything; I cooked pulled pork and put it under the broiler to crisp up a tad, and asked Fiance to watch it. Five minutes later, Fiance comes running and says, “The oven is smoking what do I do?” Ugh! He goes out unannounced, as is, he doesn’t let me know when he arrives at work or out somewhere, so I worry… Those sorts of things. Little things I keep telling myself, Pick your battles! Don’t die on that hill, it isn’t worth it. But every little thing I blow up at.
I LOVE Fiance. I do. He’s great and we are such yin-yangs. He is calm, cool, and chill. I’m fiery, hot headed and enthusiastic. I drive him to do his best and not accept a no, and he teaches me to calm down and go with the flow. HELP, bees. I don’t want to go into our marriage with spats all the time. I’ve talked with my girl friends and they say, “Oh, it’s cold feet on both your parts. He’s on edge and nervous and so are you and so he screws up more from nervousness and you take your nervousness and turn it into fear”.
What can we do? Any tips for him and I?… We have good communication. Just my issues and how I handle things. Is it because of everything going on and soon to happen?…