Post # 1
I am an unconventional “engaged” lady. In fact, I’m technically not engaged yet. My boyfriend brought up about a month ago about starting a family. And from there it went from “we are going to get married, lets start planning.” So I am starting to plan this wedding while we are researching rings.
I said I wanted whatever he could afford to give me. It could’ve been 1/10th of a carat diamond and I wouldn’t have cared. All that matters to me is his love and what the ring means. He refuses to get me anything other than a 1/2 carat and must be high quality.
Here’s the tricky part – right now I’m between jobs. I’m working part time right now until I get a certification I am going to be going to school for, and get the job I really want. Granted it should only take until the end of the year, but still. Finances for both of us right now are not that lucrative.
I have been getting stressed out recently and I didn’t realize what it was about until today. I am stressed about the money spending on rings and getting married!! We want to start a family right after we get married but I would much rather start saving up for moving to a better place and getting prepared to have a baby.
So I sent him a link of the Moissanite rings after seeing several threads of these beautiful, lower priced alternatives to diamonds. I researched a bit into them and sent him the link to check it out. I explained I know he wanted to get me a diamond but to check it out. His response? “Nope”
UGHHHH. I’m so frustrated with him. By the time he’s able to save the money for the ring he wants to get me (which is close to 2k) I will almost be married for heaven’s sakes! He’s so stubborn. 🙁
Thanks for reading, I just needed to vent.
Post # 3
That is frustrating! But on the upside, you’re planning a wedding! Hooray!
I got some resistance from my SO about Moissanite too – he said he’d feel embarrassed if people found out he didn’t get me a “real” ring. I told him it’s an awesome “space gem” and that it’s almost as hard as diamond, and more sparkly, and most important, it’s what I want and I am really not interested in diamonds for a number of ethical reasons. So, for now, he’s begrudgingly agreed to get me a moissanite. If your Fiance is anything like my SO, maybe having some reasons other than financial would help sway him?
Post # 4
Ditto on the “reasons other than financial”. I’ve asked for an aquamarine, not a diamond, and I had to do some convincing because at first my SO thought I was just saying that because it would cost less. But I gave him reasons why I wanted it: it’s his birthstone, they symbolize a happy marriage, oh, and the part where I’m kind of obsessed with anything in that aqua-blue color (which he was already aware of haha).
I’m sure your SO just wants to make you happy, so try to think of some things that you really really love about moissanite/why it would make you particularly happy–super sparkly, ethical reasons, whatever it may be!
Congrats on the wedding planning! The money part will all work out. Just do your research, shop around, and be creative. There are lots of great ideas on this site and others that will help you save money while still having a really beautiful wedding.
Post # 5
My fiancé did the same. I showed him the site and hewanted to get a real diamond. Just be patient. Also, check into clearances. Macy’s has clearances on their jewelry and you would be able to find the ring you seek for a price you can afford.
Post # 6
He may come around to the moissanite idea? Is he usually the type that after a while will come around to an idea? Maybe if he knows you can replace the center moissanite later for a diamond? You can order a ring with real side diamonds and just have the center be moissanite. Guys have been brainwashed by the whole “diamond” industry. I hope he comes to see that moissanite is a nice choice. Even not as an alternate to diamond….just in it’s own right. It mostly passes for diamond but personally I LIKE some of the things moissie does. More colorful to me and more sparkly. I hope to get one myself someday. Best of luck!