- 9 months ago
So…this is a complete “poor me” type rant post. If you have anything mean and unhelpful to say, please think about your own wedding planning process and how high emotions could get. I understand that this is just how weddings go, but I need to vent, so please don’t jump down my throat.
Logistics: We picked a venue that is as middle of the map as we could get since FH and I are from different states. Everyone will be traveling 1-2.5 hours, aside from a couple people who live way out of state. Unfortunately that’s as fair for everyone as we could make it. The timeline, so far, is the following:
Nov 9 (day before wedding): 12pm- Rehearsal on property
12:30/1- Treat everyone to dinner at brewery
Nov 10 (wedding day): 9am- Hair and makeup arrive
2pm- First Look
Things I need to vent about:
1. I’m trying my best to make sure our guests and wedding party have access to rooms they can stay in, however, nobody seems to know yet whether they are staying the night or not. The problem is, the Nov 9 AND Nov 11 weddings blocked ALL of the rooms on property for their dates. This doesn’t concern me too much except for the fact that we planned on staying in the area the night of Nov 9 that way we aren’t driving on our wedding morning. There are other hotels in the area, however, i’m finding check out is 11am, and we aren’t allowed to check in to our rooms until 12:30 at the venue. This is an hour and a half of wasted time for the hair and makeup! I suggested we all get an airbnb. I found one that accommodates 8 people and would be perfect for our wedding party, but everyone is still unsure what they want to do. I have bad anxiety and just have a feeling everyone will wait until the last minute and hardly any rooms anywhere will be available.
2. All of our wedding party, aside from 1 bridesmaid, have kids. I understand that this makes things more complicated, and I really really am understanding of this, trust me. It’s just that I can’t help but feel like no one is really sharing the joy of the engagement process with us, because they are all busy with their own lives and don’t ever even ask about it. One of the groomsmen lives very close, but we haven’t seen him a single time since before getting engaged. No one has offered to host a shower, a bachelor, a bachelorette, nothing. My own sister, and maid of honor, asked me when my wedding was this past weekend. She said she lost the save the date and couldn’t remember. I asked if she looked at it when she got it, because our website is on there and has info about hotels, but she said no, she never looked at the website. I just feel incredibly hurt and sad. I know, I know, your wedding is never as important to others as it is to you. But we are 4 months out from the wedding, I would expect my Maid of Honor know the wedding date…
3. I was told by a coworker that my dress looks like a curtain. For those who remember, or who have been following, I decided to stick with my original dress. The other dress, once I tried it on, made my hips look wide. I’ve given up on this. At this point, I won’t be the most beautiful bride, in a stunning dress that everyone loves, but I will be clothed at least.
So all in all, this hasn’t been this joyous process that I thought it would be. I knew it would be stressful at times, but I thought I would be able to receive emotional support, or bounce ideas off our wedding party, but that hasn’t happened.
I guess i’m looking for comradery? Someone else who is also feeling overwhelmed, sad?