(Closed) Stressed and venting

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes I’m going through it right now and I’m 4 months out. I’m so over his parents, I’m so over planning a wedding in a location that I didn’t want, I’m so over paying all this money to satisfy two selfish people who don’t give a rat’s behind about their son’s wedding but enough to say “if you have it away, we won’t go even though we said it was okay for you to plan a destination wedding because WE’LL lose money”. But throughout the year they have made expensive purchases and whatnot and not once offered to help.

I was walking into work today and I just lost it, I had to take refuge in a stall in the ladies bathroom to cry my eyes out.  I”m so unhappy with this wedding. I wish I had fought harder for what I wanted because I KNEW his parents were being manipulative but he didn’t see it and I sacrificed my dream beach wedding and bank account so that he could have his parents at the wedding and lo and behold they don’t even care. AND they won’t pay me back the money they said they woudld when we cancelled the wedding for them. These people have made wedding planning the MOST MISERABLE exeprience ever.

Yes I wish with everything that I have that we could just run away or we could rewind armed with the knowledge we have now and stick to our plans. It’s just too late to do that, I’m too invested financially in this wedding. 

So you’re not alone @OliveT: !!!!

Post # 5
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hope you don’t mind if I join the venting…. 

Me and my fiance have been together for sometime now as well (nearly 5 years). And the wedding was mostly for our families (both our families live out of the country) and they have always said “How nice it would be to come to your wedding.” Well, now that it’s happening it seems no one is coming at all!!! My fiance’s parents are now getting a divorce, so they don’t get along, so half his family does not want to come because they don’t want to see the other half (and with most of them it just seems like an excuse not to bare the expence, even though they are just coming up from the States).

My sister seems more critical of things than anything (she is my MOH), but I guess I should have expected that. My other brides’ maid is coming from Spain a week or so before the wedding and there has been little to no support (and even less excitement). And just like you said, it seems that people who I would not expect the be excited are — coworkers mainly.

It just feels like at the end we will have about 4 people show up and it will be a sad and lonely affair… 

Post # 7
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Oh sister, I hear ya. Right before my wedding I seriously just wished we’d eloped. Like why did EVERYTHING have to be stressful?? Like couldn’t there just be one thing that wasn’t… The only advice I can give you is really just to stay postive and remember what the day is really about: the love between you and your FH. I also was dealing with SO many people who just didn’t really care. And as a bride, you walk the line between wanting everyone to care as much as you do and knowing that obviously people just don’t because they have their own lives and aren’t the ones getting married. The one person I wish would have been more excited during the planning was my sister – we’re very close and lived together throughout the planning – but she was also very busy with securing plans for her future this year so what can you do but be understanding, you know? DH’s family could’ve basically given a shit, which sucked majorly. I also had a bridesmaid drop out 4 weeks before the wedding and it disappointed me really bad and I hadn’t even paid for anything, so I can’t even imagine how disappointed you must feel. But your wedding is coming up SO soon and I hope you can think positively and feel nothing but joy and love on your special day. *hugs*

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