(Closed) Stressed!!! Anybody else arguing with fiance much more than normal?

posted 7 years ago in October 2011
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

actually we had a lot of our fights earlier in planning stages. it would get bad. I am sure that you are both stressed, nervous and tensions are high, so you are going to be quicker to get upset and fight. We probably would be fighting more if we were around each other more but as Fiance works nights, i don’t see him that much during the week.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am in this boat πŸ™ It sucks! Now is when I most need him to be super loving and helpful and instead he is stressed himself and no fun to be around. πŸ™ My Fiance has OCD and some other issues though, so the house being kind of messy (in his mind anyway), packing, and all the details have him really on edge. I guess he can’t help it but it just sucks. Especially because I am the one doing 98% of the wedding work. πŸ™  Anyway, I feel your pain!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yup! We’ve been arguing over wedding stuff this past week. We’re looking into changing dates and it was not pretty lol. We want to move our date up by two months and I asked him to talk to his family about their schedules. I think we argued twice in the past two weeks, but thankfully, our arguments don’t last more than one hour.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Definitely!!! It comes in waves, usually when I am super stressed out and he’s just doing the usual “yes dear, that looks lovely” response and I want a REAL OPINION or he’s not helping because he thinks it’s still too early to do/talk about that. Boys! eesh!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yep, us too πŸ™ I’m looking forward to this whole wedding thing being over and us getting back to “normal us”.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

His to-do list has increased with the wedding less than a month away and he’s getting cranky.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

YES! But since we are coming down to the wire, too, I think we are just really feeling the crunch!! Yesterday, we argued about letting the cat out. Sometimes, I think, Oh, geez, is this a sign?! But I know it’s just pre-wedding jitters and he is the one for me! The reason I know is when we are arguing about the cat or cereal bowl, he manages to always make me laugh and shake it off! He’s the ying to my yang! LOL

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yup, we are fighting alot recently. About little stuff, that we would never fight over. And i have been losing my patients with him alot recently πŸ™ Im surprised he still wants to marry me at this point LOL.

I know part of what is wrong  with me is i am really stressed out. For the last couple weeks i have had this pressure right above my eyebrows all the way across my forehead. i thought it was allergies, or jsut a headache. i take something and it doesnt help….  Hate stress!!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@HeatherShane: LOL The funny thing is I have the same headache! I have been taking my allergy meds but they don’t help!!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We never really fight and so far we’ve had 2 big wedding-related arguments.  BOTH were a direct result of his mother.  I have to turn in my seating chart (like yesterday!) and she freaked out because she doesn’t like who she’s sitting with.  It was someone from HER list who literally doesn’t know anyone else!  She gave me her own seating chart about a week ago, even though I never asked her to do this and said I was working on it.  The tables are 10 tops, and she gave me tables that all had about 6 people at them and then said she didn’t want me mixing “my people” with “her people.”  I was just like wtf am I supposed to do with this?!  Well Fiance, who had already helped with and approved the seating chart I was about to turn in, was like “Let me see, we’ll just have to change it around a bit.”  At that point I just lost it :-/

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@seven12: OMFG I just had the same argument yesterday with Fiance, his sister decided she wanted to bring a date at the last minute. Last Saturday, I told her we couldnt accomodate it. Fast forward to Wedensday, seating chart took hours to complete, but it’s finally done. Well yesterday, one of his friends said she wasn’t bringing her date, so that left an open space. Well, he said “lets call my sister and tell her to bring her date”. I was pissed. I said well wait a second the seating is already done if she adds a date I’m gonna have to rearrange the whole table and move ppl around which will create a disaster (there’s no more room at the table where she’s sitting). His response, “to hell with the seating chart I wanna make sure my sis has someone there with her to support her?”  Ummm support her for what? She’s not getting married. Anyway, we resolved it no date is coming but it pissed me off royally.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yep…we have had 2 big fights and we are only about 4 months in. The first was about cupcakes (yeah…..) and the second was over a ‘getting to know you’ form our photographer gave us. I think things are just really stressful with everyone on different pages and wanting different things (family, you, Fiance, friends). The making up part is nice though πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Soon2BMrsP818: Yeah, people just don’t get it.  My Future Mother-In-Law was like “Well, there’s 11 tables, that means I get 5 or 6 and your side gets the rest.”  I was like “Umm… NO!  You only have 35 guests coming.  You get 4 tables max!”  FI and I grew up in the same small town and we’ve known eachother more than 1/2 our lives.  Basically all of our friends are mutual friends… Future Mother-In-Law knows this damn well, but didn’t want me mixing “his friends” with “my friends” when I did the chart.  OMFG is right lol!!!!!!!!!!

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