(Closed) Stressed bride

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, what a coincidence that 3 of them are preggers! Have you already chosen a bridesmaid dress that you’re set on them wearing? If not, maybe you could be flexible and just tell them all a color to wear, or perhaps you could find a dress that’s a bit more forgiving to their changing bodies — something flowy that wouldn’t need much altering, maybe?

I hear what you’re saying about being a type-A planner, but you can’t really make a plan for their bodies! Women who have just given birth go through a lot of bodily changes. Also, bridesmaid dresses can be altered quickly — they’re typically not as much work as wedding dresses. I know that you’re worried, but try to take a step back and remember what’s important: your best friends are about to have children (YAY!) and they’re still willing to stand up with you — it’s all good news to be thankful for! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow that’s alot of baby showers and bridal showers.  If your friends are not into fitness it is really hard to get started and keep with it.  It can be done but with just a few months for them to loose the weight with a new baby its going to take a lot of time and dedication.  If there is enough time for them to order the dresses after they have the babies then I think you should cut them some slack and wait.  I know how you feel wanting to cross as many things off the list as soon as possible but Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses doesn’t take anywhere near as much time as bridal gowns for alterations

Post # 6
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2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@DIYbride2012: How crazy! Sorry to say, but I was the same as the one not wanting to take off work. It can be tough, especially with having a baby, to justify using limited vacation time for a 3 minute fitting. Try to see it from her angle. As far as dresses go, are you set on a specific color?? Maybe it would work better for you and your girls to have a ‘girls/shopping day’ and go try on dresses at a department store closer to your date. Pros for a few reasons- bonding time, they get to try and lose weight, CHEAPER dresses (I had to order a $200 SHORT dress and I’ve never in my life spent that on a cocktail dress..esp when I know its at a regular store), and potentially no alterations cost!

Post # 8
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728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

oh no! first of all you need to breathe! 

i was so nervous to ask one of my friends to stand because they are planning to have kids soon and i did not want a preggers bridesmaid – but then i actually mentioned it to her and felt like the hugest B ever! and apologized – being a bride makes us  a little crazy sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚ 

throughout this process I have been reminded again and again that this is my wedding and it is most important to me and Fiance. everyone else has a life outisde of my one big day including my best friends

it is unfair for to request for her not to get preggers – and like you said she wont even be showng at the wedding. and all your other Bridesmaid or Best Man will have given birth long before your wedding. 

i know wedding planning is stressful – i’m relieved in 5 short weeks I will be passed this stage! 

HUGS! be happy for your friends, its a very special time for them too and to hear a best friend be disapointed or upset would not be nice

good luck with everything else! xo

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