Post # 1
Hello, I am getting married August 11th. We announced our engagement and date of wedding the end of last summer. Well to make a long story short 3 out of 4 of my maids are pregnant. They will all be giving birth before my wedding but I have no idea what to do about the dresses and when we should start looking and how that’s all going to work. Only one of my maids has their dress and she is the third to find out she is pregnant. The due date will befret ermines tomorrow but we are thinking June or July. This is so extremely stressful on me it’s not even funny. I’m not this lets wait and see person. I am a let’s plan and get things done person. So I set up a dress fitting for march 11th but I have my most recent prego maid saying she’s not buying another dress and she’s not getting measured until after the baby because she wants to lose weight. Well everyone wants to lose weight but I can’t just sit around and waiting. I set up a date for march 11th when everyone still has time and energy to pick out dresses because come April they are going to be having babies and no one is going to feel like trying on dressed. Well now I also had the recent maid whom is also my fiancé sister that she doesn’t want to waste a day of not going to work just to get measured to see if David’s bridal can expand her dress enough. I am feeling like no one is even thinking about any of this on my end and how stressful this is for me to be attempting to plan a wedding when I have three pregnant maids. So on top of venting I guess my question is what should I do?! Am I right to start in march and give enough time for any alterations needed? I want to try to make this as stress free as possibly. Thanks for listening 🙂
Post # 3
Wow, what a coincidence that 3 of them are preggers! Have you already chosen a bridesmaid dress that you’re set on them wearing? If not, maybe you could be flexible and just tell them all a color to wear, or perhaps you could find a dress that’s a bit more forgiving to their changing bodies — something flowy that wouldn’t need much altering, maybe?
I hear what you’re saying about being a type-A planner, but you can’t really make a plan for their bodies! Women who have just given birth go through a lot of bodily changes. Also, bridesmaid dresses can be altered quickly — they’re typically not as much work as wedding dresses. I know that you’re worried, but try to take a step back and remember what’s important: your best friends are about to have children (YAY!) and they’re still willing to stand up with you — it’s all good news to be thankful for! 🙂
Post # 4
Wow that’s alot of baby showers and bridal showers. If your friends are not into fitness it is really hard to get started and keep with it. It can be done but with just a few months for them to loose the weight with a new baby its going to take a lot of time and dedication. If there is enough time for them to order the dresses after they have the babies then I think you should cut them some slack and wait. I know how you feel wanting to cross as many things off the list as soon as possible but Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses doesn’t take anywhere near as much time as bridal gowns for alterations
Post # 5
Okay thank you ladies 🙂 I was going to wait until after my first two since they are due in April but my last one is not due until June or July leaving VERY little time for this. I have found each one of my maids a dress all ready that will be perfect for their growing belly and the belly they will or will not have after baby but no one is motivated to look at these dresses! I foun. Them off siteI on Facebook exact color I need and much more affordable. The third maid all ready has her dress but because of the style I doubt with this being her first child it will still fit her after the baby unless she’s one of those people tgoes shrinks right down to their pre prego weight right after baby. I’m just do stressed its not even funny they are not all wearing the same dres I just want it the same color but no one seems motivated to do anything and her I have 7 months with nothing planned but baker dj and photographer
Post # 6
@DIYbride2012: How crazy! Sorry to say, but I was the same as the one not wanting to take off work. It can be tough, especially with having a baby, to justify using limited vacation time for a 3 minute fitting. Try to see it from her angle. As far as dresses go, are you set on a specific color?? Maybe it would work better for you and your girls to have a ‘girls/shopping day’ and go try on dresses at a department store closer to your date. Pros for a few reasons- bonding time, they get to try and lose weight, CHEAPER dresses (I had to order a $200 SHORT dress and I’ve never in my life spent that on a cocktail dress..esp when I know its at a regular store), and potentially no alterations cost!
Post # 7
Now my last bridesmaid is pregnant. I am so close to manic depression its not even funny. (and now I have not been diagnosed) but seriously….all I asked was for my last made NOT to get pregnant and she kept saying oh no we won’t we’re not ready yadda yadda….than i find out now shes expecting too. As much as I would LOVE to be happy I am so depressed its not even funny. I’ve had to force myself to eat and I literally feel as though I’m a zombie walking around in my life. All I want is to be happy for these ladies but I can not be. All I keep thinking is I decide to get married and all the closest people around me including my maids get pregnant. We all ready have our dresses and yes since the wedding is only three months away the likely hood of her showing is slim to none. At the same time I feel as though all of the time that is supposed to be spent on me and trying to get help from everyone as diminished. This time is not about me and for once in my life thats all i wanted. I only get married once (hopefully) and everyone is stealing the time that people are supposed to be helping me plan and prepare for my wedding and calming my nerves when the wedding get closer and thinking and preparing parties for me are instead having babies and both sides of the family are thinking of yay having more grand babies and baby showers. And as i’m writing this i’m thinking to myself how selfish this must all sound but i honestly can not help but just want to ball my damn eyes out. First it was my sister, than it was my friend (bridesmaid), than it was my fiances sister and just as i finally get over the fact that shes pregnant and everything being planned right now on his side is due to her baby shower, I now find out that my fiances brothers girlfriend who is my friend and my last maid is now pregnant. I am literally depressed by this because I am in BRIDE mode not friend/sister mode…I am thinking of my wedding and my bridal shower and my bachelorette party and preparing and decorating and making sure everything is right. I am not in the friend/ or sister mode where I can be happy about this and enjoy this. And of course my fiance doesn’t understand how i feel because none of this effects him. I am so destraught I literally want to seclude myself from everyone and just plan everything myself while everyone else goes about with their babies. Children are a wonderful thing don’t get me wrong, I have two of them. I just don’t get why I decide to get married and everyone decides to get pregnant. And then I get people telling me really bad advice and people laughing about this and my current maid who just found out KNEW how absolutely pissed i was about the other pregnancies and the ONE thing I asked of her was NOT to get pregnant. I feel like i’m mourning a dead person. I’m seriously that bad off. I am too the point where even actually talking about this makes me want to vomit. I can not seam to STOP feeling this way. I keep trying to think of the positive and instead of being able my body and emotions literally want to just ball my eyes out. I’m doing all I can NOT to ball my eyes out.
Post # 8
oh no! first of all you need to breathe!
i was so nervous to ask one of my friends to stand because they are planning to have kids soon and i did not want a preggers bridesmaid – but then i actually mentioned it to her and felt like the hugest B ever! and apologized – being a bride makes us a little crazy sometimes 🙂
throughout this process I have been reminded again and again that this is my wedding and it is most important to me and Fiance. everyone else has a life outisde of my one big day including my best friends
it is unfair for to request for her not to get preggers – and like you said she wont even be showng at the wedding. and all your other Bridesmaid or Best Man will have given birth long before your wedding.
i know wedding planning is stressful – i’m relieved in 5 short weeks I will be passed this stage!
HUGS! be happy for your friends, its a very special time for them too and to hear a best friend be disapointed or upset would not be nice
good luck with everything else! xo