(Closed) STRESSED BRIDE!!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hollz118:  One step at a time. And any free time you have do a little bit at a time. And having a short term memory that forgets the pain helps.

I’m actually in the same situation as you. I moved from the east coast to southern california two weeks ago. I work a demanding job that has me on call 24/7 and flying to states Monday to Thursday…I’m currently waking up at 5.30 am every morning to work east coast hours…and my wedding is early September.

Some tips..rope in help while you can. While moving, I hired a task rabbit (task rabbit is awesome!). She helped pack my kitchen alongside me and my FI. I roped in my FMIL to line all the cupboards in my new apt. So…don’t be ashamed to ask for help.

Not sure whether your work situation permits it, but push back on your boss and team a little. I’ve definitely paid my dues in my job and everyone knows I’m moving and planning a wedding. They’ve let me a little leeway, letting me work from home a few weeks instead of making me fly to a different city the past 2 weeks. Every chance I get I let them know how busy I am..cashing in on my paying my dues chips.

And pamper yourself! after the crazy  move my FI and I went to a nice restaurant and checked into a hotel suite.

Hopefully most of your wedding is on the way..maybe ask your bridesmaids to help out? Towards the end I’m just tying up small details at this point. though I have meetings with different vendors every weekend =(

 

Good luck!

 

Post # 4
Member
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s a stressful time, that’s all. I balanced distance wedding planning with full time graduate school, full time work, living in a new state with no support system, and cancer in the family. I won’t sugar coat it: it’s really stinkin tough. You have every right to feel overwhelmed and stressed and sometimes cry about it. But what I found helped was to keep lists. Lists work well for me, so I would just write down everything that I had to do whether it is in the wedding planning list, or the packing and moving list, and just tackle things one at a time. Set aside time in the evenings to do one wedding thing, or one moving thing, and don’t forget to enlist help! Ask your FI for help when you need it, ask your bridal party for help if you need it. 

But my answer for everything: lists.

Post # 5
Member
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t sweat the details.

Make sure you have a wedding license, someone to marry you, your groom & the ultimate goal of the day will be met.

Stressing about the small stuff is not going to do you any good. Focus on the reason you planned this day, and remember this is about starting your life together, not about having perfect hair, centerpieces or flowers.

 

 

Post # 6
Member
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Lists and dont stress about things and just roll with the punches. We moved a year before the wedding and launched our new company 1 month before and ya cancer in the family. Lists for yourself and your FI of things he can help with.

Post # 7
Member
11284 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

weddings can be very stressful but i think the best tool you can have is a good checklist. focus on the task and don’t be wishy washy with your choices.  make your decision and then you can check it off of your list and then move on to the next item.

also, delegate some tasks out to family, bm’s, friends, etc.  it will make it easier on you.

i planned our wedding from another country in just over 5 months.  it was my checklist and wedding bee that helped me through it.

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