(Closed) Stressed! FI has 2 job chocies and we may have to move :(

posted 5 years ago in Career
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@cupoftea:  First, congrats to your FI for getting TWO job offers, especially in this economy!

I think you need to sit down and explain to him all the pros and cons of both options and then tell him that you want to support him in whatever decision he makes and leave the ball in his court – hopefully, he’ll make the right decision. 

Personally, I don’t think it’s worth a better title to move to VA and part of the reason is that it’s not any more money and the cost of living probably isn’t that different between the two cities, but you also lose out on your income or on the low cost of tuition that you would be able to get in NC.  Financially, the move doesn’t make sense.  Eventually, is there a possibility for him to become Director in NC?  If so, then you’re not really holding him back – you’re only postponing that for a while. 

Life isn’t always about career and money, though.  You will be far away from family and friends.  It’s really not that far – 4 hours means the two of you could drive and stay for a weekend every so often to visit.  And, you can always make new friends.  So it’s not the end of the world. 

But, if the only thing that makes moving to VA better is a better job title, I just don’t think that’s a strong enough reason to uproot your entire life and move out there. 

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