I am just completely stressed and it’s getting worse instead of better! Sorry, I just need to vent!
I am in a doctorate program. I’m finishing up the “academic” portion right now (ends in May), and then I go straight into the “practical” portion for a year with no break. There are just a lot assignments that aren’t hard, just time consuming.
I’m in a certificate program and need to write an IRB application to do research. My faculty advisor doesn’t answer my e-mails (and she’s the head of the IRB committee – obviously she’s withdrawal from a decision, but I still need my questions answered!)
I have to write an amendment for a different research study that is already taking place. I don’t understand the format that they want. 🙁
I applied for a master’s program starting in the fall at the school I’m aready at. I was called into the office of the director of the department on Friday and told that I had a “positive” letter being sent out this week, but she was concerned about the logistics of me being involved in two programs at once. She basically said I would receive an acceptance letter but if I wasn’t going to take a year off my other program, I couldn’t do the part-time, Saturday’s only master’s program. I have been working with the school since September to make this happen! Thankfully, it was resolved at the end of the day by some people higher up.
I had to see a new dentist yesterday due to insurance changes from getting married and being added to my husband’s insurance. I have never seen such an old office in my life. I don’t really like going to the dentist, and the fact that the equipment looked like it was all from 1960 was not cool. I don’t really want to go back.
I had to find an OB/GYN due to some recent problems and had my appointment today. I have to miss class on Thursday to have a test run and have an additional follow-up appointment with the doctor. I’m really hoping nothing major is wrong. On a side note, the doctor was very pleasant to talk to.
I have been working to set up a program at a local Free Medical Clinic I volunteer at. I finally got approval, and now I have to organize the 12+ interested students and find funding!
I’m so stressed I’m having a really hard time faling asleep/ staying asleep at night. I’m not interested in medications. I just need some strategies to help me “turn off” my brain so I can go to sleep!
I doubt anyone actually read all of this, but the key points: too much school – class, research projects and implementation of projects. Saw a dentist yesterday that was kind of weird and the office (and equipment!) seemed to be from 1960. I liked my old dentist I have been going to since I was a child! Having a medical problem and had to see an OB/GYN today – and have to go on Thursday for tests and follow-up with the doctor (and have to miss class as a result). My SIL and Brother-In-Law are now in jail and they have a toddler, Mother-In-Law shot herself… twice… and now they want her to move in with us.
My friend once told me, “It is NOT the time!” (To be thinking/ working things out at night.) She told me to picture black, just black, and concentrate on that. It sounds simple, but can really help. Black. Just black. Good luck- I assume you are also making to do lists and making times to do certain things at certain times (during your waking hours). Knowing WHEN I am going to do each thing helps me.
It’s not medication, but melatonine really helps me if I just CAN’T go to sleep. I also read once that you need to slowly decrease the amount of light you get before bed. So don’t have like all the lights in the house and the TV on and then turn them off and expect to be able to go to sleep. Turn off all the lights except the room you’re in, then turn off all the lights in that room except the bedside lamp. Then lower the bedside lamp if you can, then turn it off. I find that helps me too.
Im so sorry that you have so much going on! What works for me is having “me time” like 30 min before bed and only think and do what I want to. If its cleaning the kitchen, taking a hot bath, or reading a book..it all helps a lot!
Oh, Eve, sound like you are on overload! This is a lot to have going on at once. My only advice is to try taking a step back for a moment and analyze what is most important to you. See if there is anything that you can cut out or put on hold for a while (I realize that several of these things are things you have no control over, or did not ask for). Good luck!
start practicing good sleep habits. meaning go to bed and wake up at the same time every day. also, nothing should be done in your room other than sleeping. no studying/reading/watching tv in bed. that has to go immediately. you need to train your brain to recognize that when you go in the bedroom, it’s sleep time.
drink a glass of grapefruit juice before bed or make yourself some green tea with chamomile in it. it calms you down. grapefruit juice is supposedly known for helping sleep. do a few yoga stretches in your room with deep breathing exercises for about 5 min before you get in bed.
also, get one of thsoe “stress eye pillows” from bed bath & beyond ($12). it helps me a lot. it’s like a soft bean bag eye cover and it relieves pressure on your face and head and is supposed to calm you down.
hope that helps! and if not, just go to your doctor and tell him what you told us and he’ll give you a script for ambien. sometimes you just need a little meds to get you through a rough patch. there’s nothing wrong with that, you have a lot on your plate and not being able to sleep could ruin your future projects. so think about letting go of the whole ‘no meds’ mentality and know that this is probably just some situational anxiety/insomnia and it will pass when you dont have a GAZILLION things to do girl!
@cbee: I have a hard time thinking of “blackness,” but I’m certainly willing to try it out some more! I live by to do lists and am really organized. Honestly, I think I’m probably just doing too much at once. I watched the video as well. I’ll have to try that tonight. It looks peaceful.
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Thank you! I have an ultrasound on Thursday, so I’m hopeful everything will come back ok. 🙂 I guess there is no point in thinking about it until then… there’s nothing I can do about it.
@Taylor4: I’ll have to try out decreasing the lights during the evening. Maybe that would help my body realize that it’s close to bedtime.
@Miss.Lace: I’ve recently started reading before bed, but I think I was undermining myself. Getting through material for my projects probably isn’t helping me! I’ll have to try some lighter reading!
@MzMarzipan: I definitely have a problem with over-committing to projects. I’m going to have to do some serious thinking to determine what I really want to focus on. I tend to forget that just because I can’t do something now doesn’t mean I can’t do it eventually. I talked to my husband about some of the family drama, and he’s put my mind more at ease, so hopefully I can try not to worry about that too much.
@nontraditionalmiami: Deep breathing or maybe meditation (?) sound like good options. I’ll have to try one of those stress eye pillows too. Suprisingly, I go to bed and wake up around the same time each day. Well, kind of… I “go to bed” but can’t fall asleep. I’m actually almost a pharmacist, and I’m not opposed to medications. I just don’t think (at this moment) that medications are the best options for me. If I try lifestyle modifications and then still have problems, I’ll certainly talk to my doctor about my options.
@misssweet: I tried exercising last week too close to bedtime and I was awake forever! I do have allergies, but they are well controlled. However, the seasons are changing, so I will keep an eye on that as well.
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