(Closed) Stressed out

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Mixmatch20:  I have been to wedding that were lovely at less than 5000 and weddings at 30000-40000 where I wondered where the money went. Spend what you can REALLY afford and do the best you can.

Decide what is most important (ie food, drink, dress, venue) and then do the best you can for the rest. DIY, buy used, be creative. Make it work. Honestly this is a welcome to the rest of your life. Think of it as a learning process. If youre to be a military wife it’s time you learn to do more with less. If you want your SO’s career to go well youll have to hold your chin up and make things happen. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As @subtlebee said, sometimes you can do more with less and still have a beautiful looking wedding without the crazy pricetag! Another thing that I’ve noticed is very common amongst military couples is having a quick civil ceremony at the local courthouse, so you have plenty of time to organise a proper traditional wedding without all the other stressors you’ll be facing.

Post # 6
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just noticed you’re from Australia – I think that, in Australia, de-facto partners are considered legal partners by the military (at least, that was the case with a friend of mine), so you should be able to get the support from the military for moving and finding new accommodation, etc. So if you don’t have to get married straight away, then don’t! It sounds as though you really care about your wedding and want it to look good and that can be a struggle on a budget and with time constraints.

Post # 8
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Mixmatch20:  Well perhaps it would be helpful if you found some brides blogs and looked at the recaps (tons on here). Then you can see what they liked/spent, what the guest mentioned most as great, and even get ideas about venues in you area you might not know about. I feel like where there is a will there is a way!

Also, even here military wive can have careers. Sorta depends on the woman. A lot marry young and fail to build a foundation. My mom on the other hand has a doctorate and has always worked (and done everything else!). So I meant nothing other than, here at least, they factor your family dynamics into promotion decisions.

Post # 9
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How about do a civil marriage just for 2 of you and a formal wedding later? It will give you time to save money and research all wedding related stuff so you can make informed choices without rush or stress?

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