(Closed) Stressed out planning.. What to do?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2818 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you should sit your fiance down and talk about your finances to see what is realistic and what isnt. Come up with a budget that he is comfortable with and stick with it. It sounds like your fiance is feeling the pressure of having to pay for the wedding and try to pay to repair the house and its just too much for him right now. Maybe put the wedding on hold until he gets the house sold and you are able to find a job. Unfortunately his family is not obligated to contribute to your wedding even if they have funds available to do so.

Post # 4
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly – if this is the wedding that you must have, then I would postpone it until you find a job, or something else changes with your financial situation. Weddings are stupidly expensive, and there are always things that crop up that you didn’t count on (I’m dealing with that right now1) so if your budget is already short, you need to make some changes. Either find a way to have the wedding that you want on 85-90% of the budget you think you will have (because there will always be last minute overages), or re-think the wedding style all together – unfortunately, you can’t make your finace’s parents contribute towards the wedding that you want, even if the guest list is heavily skewed towards their side.

Post # 5
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@glittergirl2: I hate to say it but it might be best to postpone it for now. You engaged and you love each other so there is no need to rush. You want to have the wedding of your dreams and it cost to do that. Start a savings for your wedding fund and buikd it up that way…



Post # 6
5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would postpone while you look for a job/FI flips his house. Weddings are stressful but being financially unstable is super stressful. If you are fighting to the point of not talking for days its time to re-evaluate. Either you change your expectations or you change your date. I understand wanting the wedding you want so if it were me I’d just push it back.

Your In-laws are not required to contribute, the flipside of that is you are not obligated to invite every distant cousin/great aunt.

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