- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I’m stressed out, not just because the wedding is coming up, but it’s mainly the people in it. My Mother-In-Law doesn’t listen to a word I say and just does what ever she wants to do. And people can’t think for themselves when it comes to weddings, I found out last night.
Story #1: My Mother-In-Law asks my Fiance what we are doing in terms of tents for the outdoor ceremony. Not because it’s going to rain, but because people will burn in the sun. Yes I understand this, but why bring it now? Why not 2 months ago? So I suggested those chinese umbrellas, because it’s in a japanese garden so it will fit in. That and I also did want an ugly tent covering up the whole point of having an outside ceremony, to be and see the outside. Plus those things are super expensive.
So my bridesmaid and Mother-In-Law go shopping for the umbrellas yesterday. My bridesmaid calls me at night and tells what happened.
She went to the chinatown, found some really awesome umbrellas, but when it cam down to paying for them, my Mother-In-Law was expecting my Fiance & I to pay for them. If it was up to me we wouldn’t of had those things in the first place!! Why would you almost demand something when I really didn’t want them in the first place & then expect me to pay for it? I can’t understand that.
Story #2: So same place, my Mother-In-Law & bridesmaid are shopping, but this time my Mother-In-Law picks up some really ornate fans. I’ve told her numerous times that the programs that I’m making are doubling as paddle fans, so we wouldn’t need to buy extra fans. I’ve also told my bridesmaid this (the night before even), so I don’t know why she didn’t bring this up either. In addition to the umbrellas she bought the fans, which we did not discuss at all, and in the end she is expecting me to pay for them. Can anyone please help me understand this woman?
Story #3: I get a text from one of the groomsmen, who doesn’t really have any mode of transportation & a fiance who doesn’t drive either & is not a part of the wedding. (I never really got close to her & she has put effort into keeping the groomsman away from his friends, so I really don’t care for her). Back to the story, I get a text from Groomsmen asking me what we are doing for transportation. I text back saying, I think people are carpooling but am not sure, but my Fiance & I are renting a car. He then asks if the Fiance is involved in the wedding. I replied saying that I really couldn’t fit her into the wedding (my nice way of saying no she’s not a part of my wedding). The he asks if she would be a part of the carpooling too. I replied I don’t know because I don’t know who is carpooling with who. Then he replies ok let me know when you know. In my head I’m think yes you’re in my wedding party, but how old are you and why can’t you ask around to carpool with some one. I already have enough on my plate, why can’t you think for yourself.
I didn’t know how to respond because I had just got off the phone with my bridesmaid with her filling me in with my Mother-In-Law & was already riled up about that, then I have to think for other people. It’s just too much! Everyone keeps teasing me about becoming bridezilla, which REALLY annoys me because up until now I really haven’t been demanding or anything like I’ve seen on those reality shows. But with all of this stress I feel like I will explode and become bridezilla, not because of the wedding, but because people aren’t listening and people can’t think for themselves. AHHHHH! Sorry I just need to vent this, so I don’t blow up and say things I really don’t want to, to the ones that I love. I really do appreciate them trying to help & I do realize that I could have it worse & have the Mother-In-Law hate me & what not, but this is very stressfull too. Can anyone relate?