(Closed) Stressed Planning

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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429 posts
Helper bee

Maybe start off with a wedding planner/checklist so it’ll help you prioritize what to decide first. With so many details, its a bit hard to stay focus on one thing without thinking of all the other things. The first thing we did was look for a venue that we like & then from there we picked our date. We didn’t have any specific date in mind. It pretty much was based on what was available. Once you find your venue, then you can figure out your decor since it’ll have to go with the style of the venue. And when you find yourself stressing again, just take time off from planning. 

Post # 3
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939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Snowbird33:  I feel the same way and I did from the start. I did get a wedding planner for partial wedding services and day of wedding help. I’m not a planner and never was..especially something so big.

Just breathe!

Post # 4
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

Do one thing at a time.  Get the big things out of the way first such as venue, DJ, photography.  Of course the first thing you should do is figure out a budget and a guest list.

Also, this may be hard to hear, but you need to lower your expectations.  When you dream about something for so long your expectations are incredibly high so you are setting yourself up for disappointment right off the bat.  Also, YOU have been dreaming about YOUR wedding.  Well you now have another person involved and it is his wedding too, and he may have some different ideas of what he wants in the day.  So you need to be okay changing your vision and compromising.  And realize that just like life, your wedding will not be perfect.  It just won’t.  BUT, at the end you will be married and that is what is most important.

So take a deep breath.  Stop questioning your decisions so much and just pick things that you and your Fiance love right this moment.  And most importantly, HAVE FUN!  This is suppose to be fun.  It is your wedding, so be excited and just have fun with it.  You don’t want to be miserable and stressed for a year plus right?  So enjoy the process because in the end, it is just one day out of your entire life, so don’t put so much pressure on yourself or the event.

Post # 5
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Definitely do one thing at a time and keep a checklist of tasks! This helped me stay focused on one thing when my mind was going over a million different possibilities. It is stressful making decisions because I was the same way. I didn’t want to make a decision and then regret it for the rest of my life because you only get this one shot. However, in reality, there is always at least one thing (big or small) that happens that you have zero control over and you just have to let it slide (I’ve organized many events for my work and I can tell you that this is normal). I’m a type A person, but I learned to sit back and enjoy the ride. Now I miss wedding planning!! Good luck!

Post # 6
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7683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Snowbird33:  Before you make any decisions, maybe think about the feeling you want your wedding to have.  What style do both of you like?  How do you picture your day? What do you want to remember about how it felt? I like the 2000 dollar wedding process.  Maybe the process they used will help you start to form an idea of how you will get there, and formulate your plan. http://2000dollarwedding.com/2008/07/from-conception-to-reception.html

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