Stressed to the max!

posted 1 month ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Working out helps, delegating tasks, medication? Could you possibly get some low dose anxiety meds?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Talking about just like you just did will help. Maybe take a hot bath put your ear buds in and meditate. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

xraychick01 :  

make a list ; delegate what you can, and prioritize what is important to you. Don’t compromise on things like working out if they help you destress; when something outside of your plan comes up, ask yourself ‘does this really matter, and is it something worth being upset about?’.

Be gentle with yourself and others – and be open to making adjustments to your plans in order to make your life easier.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Prioritize. Put first things that are necessary to make the marriage count (marriage license) then guest comfort (food and drink) then bonus decoration stuff. Work through the list in order of importance. BE OKAY with stuff not getting done!! There were so many projects I didn’t end up doing, and now I don’t remember what they even were! Because in the long run, they truly didn’t matter, they were just details that are insignificant I’ve already forgotten them only 3 months later.

Ask yourself if these things are worth being stressed over, or are you just stressed because you feel like you should be so close to the wedding? I think we often project stress on ourselves in situations where we are told we should be stressed or people are asking if we are stresssed when really if we lay it out, there isn’t that much to stress over that really matters.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I actually moved my workouts to the morning on the suggestion of my now husband for the last month before the wedding. He even got up with me to workout! It was so much better to have them done before work so I didn’t have to stress or feel bad about potentially missing them after work for wedding related tasks. At first I didn’t think I could do it as I am not at all a morning person – but now I love it! We still workout in the mornings! It’s a stress reliever to workout (for me anyway) and it was great to take another piece of stress off my plate (getting home in time to workout). You might try that. I also minimized other stress in my life and looked at the wedding as “if it doesn’t get done, no one will even know, so no reason to stress or worry about it”. The big things were done and the little things didn’t really matter

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I totally understood how you feel. My wedding is two weeks away and my stress level is incrediblely high. I have started doing nighttime yoga and and morning yoga. They both have helped me a lot. My weekday morning yoga is 12-21 minutes and it really helps me start my day more relaxed. Try yoga with SarahBeth or Brett Larkin yoga.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

xraychick01 :  Oh my gosh, I could have written this!! I got married last week and I was an emotional, stressed out mess for the few weeks leading up to it. Take deep breaths and know that you don’t need everything to be “perfect”, because trust me-  your day will STILL be perfect no matter what songs you play! Anyway, there’s no such thing as the perfect wedding (except for the one where you get to marry your fiance at the end of it!)

Also, try to lean on your fiance for support and ask him to take some things off your plate, I know that really helped me when the last minute details got too much to handle. See what you can delegate to him and just don’t worry about it after that. I know it’s hard, but seriously, it helps to just let some things go for your own sanity. If it’s something arbitrary that you aren’t super attached to, I would highly recommend just letting it go. 

Finally, I’d say you definitely need to create space throughout the week to take a hot bath, do some light, relaxing exercise (think yoga, pilates, etc) to relieve stress. You got this!!! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

xraychick01 :  How did I cope with the stress?  I didn’t.  called friends at 10pm hyperventilating.   Ended up just saying f*** it to the things I hadn’t finalised or had issues with.  

The best man organised a family lunch at 1pm (our wedding started at 3pm).  I didn’t have a cake topper, people couldn’t make it to the rehearsal, my arrogan cousin wanted to do a solo, the venue was being vague about how much they would assist with decorating, I’d lost too much weight and my dress didn’t fit, etc etc etc. 

And you know what?  It was fine. Bridesmaid or Best Man came to his senses and went to help Darling Husband get ready, we didn’t have a rehearsal at all (it’s just walking down the aisle!), I said no to my cousin, no one noticed no cake topper and I asked my beautiful interior designer friend to help my Darling Husband out with setting up  the decorations for the venue and her and some other friends did an incredible job and my dress fitted a bit weird. 

Moral is – don’t be afraid to ask for a bit of a hand, guests barely notice details and worse comes to worse it will all be fine, the point is to come out the other side married.  

And the relief after the wedding is over combines well with the joy of being a newlywed 🙂 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’m also 2 1/2 weeks away from my wedding and trying not to stress! The thought of everything we still need to do is overwhelming!!

So I made two lists: what NEEDS to get done (the bar, music playlist, seating chart/name tags and table markers, etc.) and what would be NICE to get done (bathroom baskets, centerpeices (I think our table markers are enough but Future Mother-In-Law wants more), slideshow, welcome sign, etc.).

The stuff that NEEDS to get done, I’m just taking it one thing at a time and asking for help where I can. The stuff that would be nice to get done, I’ll worry about later if I have time (and if Future Mother-In-Law wants to argue with me about them then she can just do them lol)

There can be so much unneccessary drama and stress especially in the weeks leading up. I keep reminding myself what is important and to not let the little things bug me.

I tried on my whole outfit (dress, shoes, veil, jewelry) on the weekend and I look like a FRIGGEN PRINCESS. That’s what matters. Oh, and marrying my best friend…LOL

You’re almost there so just hang on a bit longer! Like previous people have said, keep doing things (like working out) that make you feel better. It will all come and go so quick!!

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

Oh my dear you sound like me, lol, and I have a month until my wedding. I think I also cried last week when my dog ate my cat’s food!!

 

I take 5-HTP to chill me out. I take it at night and it makes me sleep like a rock, but it also just mellows me out. It’s got tryptophan in it (same stuff in turkey that makes you sleepy) and produces serotonin to boost my mood. I do notice when I’m taking it I freak out a lot less and I’m just more chill overall. It’s been a godsend. And, it’s non-addictive. I don’t always take it, but usually when i’m a little more tense I will pop one.

I do occasionally do yoga as well. Or try to.

I make a lot of lists for wedding-related things and color code them. It’s fun and rewarding to check things off my lists.

Have a SNACK! Like a GOOD snack that might be awful for you. Don’t worry about dieting or fitting into your dress for a hot minute cuz one snack isn’t going to kill you and you’ll appreciate it more knowing you deserve a dang snack. I keep a zillion cheese sticks in my fridge (I LOVE cheese) and if i’m stressed I have one becasue it’s fine and I deserve a dang cheese stick.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Hey bee, deep breaths. 

MAKE A CHECKLIST. check off things that are set in place, or will be. An jsut focus on one thing at a time…maybe one thing a day, so its not overwhelming. I would definitely do workouts to exert energy/stress, but also maybe do a body detox and facial cleansing sessions every so often to keep your self calma nd refreshed. 🙂 

 

It will be a beautiful day!

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