- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2008
Sorry to have this be so long, but I just wanted to share.
Take a deep breath and smile for a second. You’re getting married! I know you’ve planned this perfect day for so many months now and you just want to enjoy it and have everything to go smoothly..Including someone not upstaging you or mistaking someone else for the bride.
I was totally flipping out about what my Mother-In-Law was going to wear. She had shown me things she was making the last 6 months of planning and I wasn’t at all thrilled with her choices. I didn’t say anything because it wasn’t my place. Plus, she hand made them, so that was a huge no no on top of that.
Fast forward to the morning of the wedding. This is when she decided what she would wear. She chose a lacey, soft yellow dress that was ivory for our black tie wedding. She showed it to me and despite my previous expressions of unhappiness about any color being close to white or ivory being worn by anyone other than me at the wedding, I didn’t even think a thing.
In retrospect, I’m extremely surprised.
I was so high on the feeling that I was getting married to this amazing person, spending time getting ready with my bridesmaids and mom, that it didn’t bother me one bit. It didn’t bother me all night. I didn’t even REALIZE!
It didn’t come to me until this morning, 2 weeks after the wedding, while I was looking at proofs. Yes, it probably wasn’t the dress or color of choice I had preferred she wear, but no one else had a problem with it including myself, and there was no mistaking the bride either way. It is completely obvious, people are looking and gushing at you anyway. I didn’t felt upstaged because I felt amazing all day.
In pictures, it’s quite obvious who the bride and groom are.
So my message is, don’t worry. You may worry now, just as I did before the wedding, but trust me, these seemingly big things will be overlooked easily later on. Let it slide, go with the flow..Smile and just enjoy the moment of marrying this person you’re with! That’s all that matters.
Don’t risk getting into an awkward situation with your soon to be Darling Husband or Mother-In-Law about something like this. Don’t let her have something to pick at you about. Know what I mean? Relax. Smile. 🙂