(Closed) Stressing Over Expenses!!

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I suggest sitting down and working out a realistic budget for the big day.  It will be easier to plan things with concrete numbers.  Less stressful! 

Post # 4
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sorry to hear you are feeling stressed about wedding expenses. My Fiance and I have definitely been surprised by how expensive everything is and how much it adds up – constant sticker shock! Our game plan has been to prioritize our spending – what items matter most to us, what could we do without, how do we rank them in importance – and go from there.

We are also drawing on family and friends as much as possible to help. If anyone offers to help, I say, “I’m writing your name down and I will take you up on your kind offer!” Sometimes it’s hard to accept help but I figure people won’t offer if they don’t mean it. I have tried to write down notes (ex. “Susie doesn’t want to do anything creative but will run an errand that day”) if they specify that.

The good news is that you have over a year to save and plan.Your wedding is going to be a wonderful day no matter what! There are lots of great ideas and supportive people here on the WB so keep us posted on your plans!

Post # 5
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10588 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Have you thought doing something to make a little money on the side?  Since you’re at home with your kids, you could do some babysitting.  You could also work on the evenings or weekends, or do something else you could do from home.

Post # 7
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@future_mrsakp: Ah, I have some flakey friends, too, so I know what you mean. Best not to accept their offers of help, unfortunately. I just threw it out there because sometimes it can be hard to accept help (I know that’s the case for me) but extra hands make for a lighter load.

Thanks for the additional information. I can definitely understand why you would want to have a really beautiful, elegant wedding. I have found the WB to be a great resource so I hope you find useful information here. There are many creative and affordable ways to plan a wedding! We are having a cake and punch reception so I am a little biased, but I think it’s a lovely, less expensive way to celebrate. Smile

Post # 9
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2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was in your shoes about 5 months ago: sahm, kids at home still and fi with the only income footing the wedding, along with all the other ‘normal’ bills.  I was so freaked out we wouldn’t be able to make it work, with only 9-10 months to plan and the cost of a wedding a not so nice reality.

I decided to get a pt job (lucky I have both my fil’s living right next door, both retired and they babysit for me for free…kids are there just about everyday anyway and they love having them).  I was able to save up enough money so far to not only book all the vendors I wanted/needed, but I also added some things to my budget I had cut out initially to stay in my original $3000 budget.

In your cass, have you looked at odd jobs you can do at home? Not sure what your skill set is, but maybe tutoring would work or babysitting or even selling stuff you have that you don’t need on ebay and craigslist.  You have some time left… so use it to your advantage and good luck.

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