- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Not quite sure where to begin…
Darling Husband & I met and married very quickly. We met in Nov, were engaged in Jan, and were married by Sept. We both are on our 2nd marriages, and we both knew it was right immediately.
Darling Husband & I live in NC. My family is in NY, and his family is all in GA. DH’s parents are divorced, therefore we have his mom & stepdad, and his dad & stepmom.
We have spent tons of time with Mother-In-Law & his stepdad, and I get along great with them. My family has spent a fair amount of time with us, and my family has bent over backwards to embrace Darling Husband & his children, and make them feel welcome & a part of the family.
However, DH’s relationship with his dad is very odd to begin with. His dad has always treated Darling Husband as a “buddy” rather than as a son. Darling Husband does not see his dad very frequently. He speaks to him on the phone once or twice a month. I always hear his dad ask how his kids are, but he never asks about me or my daughter. Add that to the fact that when Darling Husband & I announced our engagement, his father asked him if he & his previous wife divorced because of me….???
DH’s dad is a known womanizer & has been married 7 times. He is now married to his current wife for the 2nd time (yes, they were married before, got divorced & are now remarried). So, I guess he assumes that Darling Husband is going to follow right in his footsteps?
When Father-In-Law & his wife came to our wedding, the literally came to the ceremony, barely said a word to me & then left before our dinner reception. I’ve only spent time with them on one other occasion, before our wedding. However, I did send them a very nice thank-you card, also sent a sympathy card when FIL’s dad passed away a few months ago, and I sent them a nice Christmas card w/a note & some pics of all 3 kids.
Now, Father-In-Law & his wife are coming to NC in early October to spend a long weekend. They are staying in a hotel close to our house, and Darling Husband has plans for stuff for us to do together that weekend. However, I am getting very nervous about this visit. Mainly because I feel like Father-In-Law does not like me because of all of the things mentioned above. I’m not sure how to bring this up to Darling Husband, because he always says “that’s just the way my dad is”. I don’t want to stress Darling Husband out more than he will already be, because he does already have a strained relationship with his dad, so I’m sure if he knows his dad makes me uncomfortable, it will upset him.
How do I handle this? Am I being silly?