Post # 1
So I was reading another thread, and it made me wonder how many bees are okay/not okay with strips clubs and why?
I honestly don’t know. I think if he told me he wanted to go, I wouldn’t say no. But I don’t think it would be my number one choice for guys night! But my fiancé hasno interest in going anyway! We actually talked about it while I was reading the other thread. He said maybe if he were single and thats where the guys were all going he would go with them. But that as a man in a committed relationship he has no desire to be there at all!
He’s going to a movie and local bar for his bacherlor party and Im going to a painting studio and a bar for my bachelorette (:
Post # 2
I am totally fine with Fiance going to a strip club I have 100% trust in him one of the reasons we are getting married. If I didn’t trust him to go out by himself he wouldn’t be my husband he would be my ex fiance.
If you have to tell a grown man what he can and can’t do sorry I don’t want a marriage like that he is my husband not my child.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
i wish i could vote more than once! he goes rarely. but when he does im ok with it. we’ve been together before and that was fun after i had a few shots to loosen up lol
Post # 4
I am not ok with strip clubs, I don’t mind if he wants to watch porn or something but he knows that I would not be happy with him seeing other naked ladies in the flesh!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
My fiance has only ever been to one once and it was for a bachlor party and it was at the groom’s request. It didn’t sound like he had that much fun. I was totally fine with it.
For his own bachlor party he wants to go kart racing at a local race track.
I probably wouldn’t be happy if he just wanted to go “for fun”. That’s not something him and the guys do so it would be very out of character. I’m perfectly fine with it as a bachlor party activity if the groom wants to do that.
Post # 6
I’m totally fine with it and see nothing wrong with it. He rarely goes when he’s out with friends, but we’ve gone together lots. I’m just going to throw this out there and say that I honestly really enjoy going to the strippers.
Post # 7
BlondeeBee: my Fiance does not care for them. I know my brother will be taking him to one for his bachelor party. My Fiance said he is just tagging along in other words being dragged into going. I trust my Fiance and i know that he will get a lap dance and some chick is going to be dancing on him and it happens with the environment. As long as there is no sex of any kind or disrespect i am good. It will be my brother taking him so there wont be any oh it’s your last time to be with another woman because my brother would kill him so I’m not worried. It’s a guys world and females will never understand because it’s in our nature to get worried and be jealous about another women being naked in front of our men. This is IMO everyone has a different thought process.
Post # 8
BlondeeBee: Fiance and I aren’t okay with strip clubs, porn, ect. It’s all cheating to us.
Post # 9
BlondeeBee: Funny, my Fiance and I were just talking about that thread last night. Every once in a while I tell him “Wanna hear the weirdest shit from the Bee today?” lol
I’m fine with strip clubs but he’s never been interested. He went twice before we met for bachelor parties but he finds them awkward. He’s kind of a shy geeky type, so most of his friends had game nights at home with just the guys for their parties and that’s what they’re planning for his.
If I was with someone who liked strip clubs I’d be ok with it but not like regularly. Special occassions, fine. I would NOT be ok with them going to or having a bachelor party where strippers came to the house. I have a lot of gay male friends who have been invited to those and maybe their straight guy friends are sketchier than most but it seemed in every case the women were basically prostitues. Like I’ve heard from more than one person that a common thing is for the ‘stripper’ to make the groom lay on the floor with a dildo pointing up out of his mouth and then she uses it. Yeah. I’m sorry- he may not be f***ing her, but that’s not ok for me. And others where she danced and then went to the bedroom and was available for anyone and that there was a lot of pressure to do things with her. So never ever ever strippers in a house. Most strip clubs around me are fairly well managed, so I think you’d have to go really out of your way to find one where sex (or really any touching at all) was allowed.
Post # 10
Dh has never been to one and has no desire too.
Post # 11
vanessa1359: Yeah with previous boyfriends who were into strip clubs and, honestly, whom I didn’t trust as much as Fiance I always said if they had a bachelor party they could do whatever the hell they wanted- as long as they invited my dad and my three largest/most protective cousins. 🙂 I’m sure you Fiance would never cheat but it’s always nice to have your brother there!
Post # 12
I might get heat for this, but I don’t want my Fiance putting anymore images in his “spank bank” so they call it besides mine. Thank GOD I found a man who decided that lifestyle was not for him and feels the same way I do about it. The whole idea makes me uncomfortable. It has nothing to do with lack of trust either. My Fiance is literally the most trust worthy person on the planet. I guess it really comes from a stand point of our faith though. My body is meant for only his eyes and vice versa and no other naked body should come between that covenant of marriage. That’s just how we view the whole thing. I’m just glad we are on the same page about it
Post # 13
MrsA44: Us too, always catching flack for it but it’s gross to us.
Post # 14
We go together! For the times we have gone together to a strip club, we’ve always been with friends and it’s a blast! For his bachelor party, he went to strip clubs and I didn’t mind. Those girls are there to entertain and have fun, it’s their job. I’ve been to a male strip club and it’s a lot of fun. It’s all just fun and games.
Post # 15
The Fiance and I are no spring chickens. We were friends long before we dated and would hang out a strip clubs platonically. I would be a hypocrite to tell him not to go now. I don’t care if he goes with friends, alone but I love going with him because it makes our night a little spicy. It’s not quite the same thing with his male friends. Referencing another thread though, I am not as comfortable wih strippers in a hotel room, this is Vegas so it is something very different. I trust him though.