Post # 47
@Jamergurl921: I know you don’t want to hear this but stripper in the hotel room = hooker
Even if they don’t choose to use her services, that is what she is. She knows it, and whoever is hiring her knows it.
I’m not sure what others are thinking comparing a hooker in a hotel room to girls at the beach……you may trust your fiance, but you may not feel comfortable with that sort of atmosphere–even if he is not buying sex, one of the groomsmen may be and that is just a shady situation
Post # 48
I would be livid if the idea of strippers in a hotel room ever came up.
Post # 49
Just to clarify: I do not think the OP is wrong for being uncomfortable with the possibility of private strippers, or thinking that it can lead to shady/gross situations. I’m also not saying that you don’t trust your fiance if you don’t agree with strippers. I trust my fiance more than I ever thought was possible, and I don’t think he’d cheat on me in any setting, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t find the idea of hotel strippers more than a bit skeevy.
I was just disagreeing with a PP’s statement that all men “think with their penises” the minute they see T&A, and that trust around naked women is illusory. Such generalizations are ridiculous and insulting to all the men that can (and DO) keep it in their pants.
Post # 50
yes, strippers in hotel rooms is EXTREMELY different.. their is wayy more touching involved.. and i know they do “games”.. discusting games that would be defined as cheating in my eyes as well as the majority of the female population
Post # 51
It’s disgusting the way we talk about strippers as if they are some sub-species and not women like us. It is insane to me that men can hire women to take off their clothes and grind on them until they orgasm and that’s considered a legitimate party activity for men. I hate that bullshit “boys will be boys” mentality. We do not live in the paleolithic era – my bf plays Diablo 3 and eats tostitos. I’ve never seen him kill a deer or club someone to death, so I’m not going to buy into that evolutionary imperative crap. If I found out the father of my baby said he “needed this” (as in strippers) I would seriously consider no longer being with him. Frankly, I would never marry a man with that mentality. This is EXPLOITATIVE of women for men’s stupid drunken amusement. I’m not going to knock women that have to do it, there are a lot of reasons for doing it, and some people learn to like it, but you should put your foot down. Call me a bitch and a prude, I care way more about a group of men renting a woman for a party than I do about “my man” hooking up with a “prostitute”.
If my bf is going to be unfaithful to me, I’d prefer he do it with some willing idiot rather than a woman he has PAID to be unfaithful to me. Fuck that noise man.
Post # 52
And I just gotta say, I have known a couple of strippers (smart, bubbly women) and if you think that shit doesn’t go on in strip clubs too, you’re crazy. In major cities there is a lot of regulation, but if you live in a rural/suburban area, or even a smaller city, you can bet there are women who will perform sex acts for money at those places. Most of them are full nude (in NYC they have to wear thongs though) and they talk DIRTY to the guy, and the guy talks dirty back to them. Men are allowed to touch and suck on their breasts. It would make me sick to my stomach to think of a man that is supposed to be faithful to me doing those things to another woman – and the only reason why it isn’t cheating is because she doesn’t fucking like him and just needs the money.
My bf just said “It’s pretty dumb. It’s basically a $100 hard on, and if you’re single it’d be smarter to go buy drinks and maybe meet someone you like who will sleep with you.”
Post # 53
I say, don’t even think about it, let him go without a fuss. DON’T ask out, don’t ever think about it again. Remember this is ONE night (a couple hours) for him. I certainly wouldn’t want my FH doing that BUT, I can’t control him.
Post # 54
My Fiance is leaving on Friday for a weekend in Vegas for his bachelor party. All the boys going a older, married, have kids/TTC, and are in law enforcement. Their wives (all of whom I’m friends with) gave them guidelines so I didn’t have to say anything. I know they’re going to strip clubs but I trust them all to have common sense. And my Fiance isn’t such a fan of strippers anyways. He doesn’t get why you’d pay money to get a hard on and then go back to the hotel with a bunch of dudes (since they’re all staying in Vegas). I do think they’ll take him anyways just to make him blush. I did mention to Fiance that strippers that come to the hotel rooms are usually hookers only because he’s never been to Vegas before.
I told Fiance to please come back with no broken bones, visable tattoos (preferrably no tattoos of anykind), and to not do anything that would land him or his friends up in Interal Affairs later on. Then I handed him a huge bottle of Patron Silver and a small stack of $1s and told him to enjoy his party. His sweet little self asked if there was anything he could bring me back. I said no but he kept pestering me…”Don’t you like those red soled shoes? Something with an L. And those Channel purses?” Meaning Louboutins and Chanel (men crack me up!) He says if he wins at blackjack, he’ll buy me something from both stores. I’m not holding my breath. I know you don’t win in Vegas but I don’t want to burst his bubble. Plus, he was sweet to think of me during his guys weekend. I know how much hell his cop buddies would give him for walking into Louboutin or Chanel. Sweet, sweet man!
I see no problem with telling your Fiance what you’re not comfortable with. Especially if you are concerned about the guys he’s going out to party with.
Post # 55
Just to update: My Fiance didn’t end up getting a stripper in the hotel room… in fact, he canceled the hotel room all together (his own doing not mine) and decided to just go out and come home to me. They did go to one strip club but were only there for about an hour. He said he spent a total of 37 dollars (including dinner) I blame that on not being able to drink in WA strip clubs ha ha. His coworkers bought him one lap dance and he said that he and the girl were talking about wedding planning because she was engaged too.
All in all it was fine. I’m just glad it is over 🙂
Post # 56
IM A STRIPPER. I stumbled upon this website on accident, and just couldnt resist putting my two cents in.
I work in a strip club, and i also do private parties. I understand why me and my peers are judged and stereotyped, but I have never performed any illegal sexual acts in a strip club or private party. When I do private parties, they are fun and CLEAN, and entail nothing that one’s significant other couldn’t see. I obviously cant only speak for myself, but the majority of dancers are really just dancers, not prostitutes.
I realize that I’m biased, but I would encourage anyone to consider hiring a stripper for a private party, as they are a guaranteed good time. We are professional (considering the circumstances lol) and make for a great “one last hoorah”.
I would also like to add that it looks like most of the negative posts regarding strippers are women, who are naturally going to be opposed to a random woman getting naked for her man. Girls, please dont worry. In most cases, the bachlor is talking about his fiance the whole time.
Post # 57
yes to the club, no to the private ones
Post # 57
I’m a private dancer. I’m not in anyway a prostitute. me and my girls do not allow touching in any way past a lap dance at most. and you do realise when the strippers are booked you can talk to the company. Explain what kind of girls you want. All you gotta do is tell them you don’t want some broke down nasty ratchet female doing the party. Thank goodness my company is extremely picky about the girls that work for them. I do bachelor parties all the time, aND we have a great time but I also very much respect the groom and his soon to be wife.we’re not all pathetic whores who never knew our daddy. .