- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Okay, This is the deal:
I don’t dislike male strippers. I have been to MANY gay clubs and love to see the shows and watch them dance on the stages, but actually having one in my face, or 3 feet away shaking the goods, or a lap dance… umm, no thanks. [side note: it’s just a turn off to me, not into that muscular, pretty-boy, type style].
Here’s the Issue: I’m Maid of Honor in my sisters wedding, BUT Head Bridesmaid/ BFF is in charge of the Bachelorette party. She’s convinced that my sister will love a stripper and has gone ahead and booked a 45 min “show” in the hotel room for the girls and myself. She’s also asking for any contributions towards the cost, to which i didn’t answer her yet.
My though here is thay my husband would probably flip if he knew. My sister is shy private person and I thought the Bridesmaid wouldnt even think of a stripper. WRONG. Supposedly Head BM went to a strip club with my Sister, and they enjoyed themselves. At this point, I’ guessing she did not ask my opinion for two reasons, 1- she knew i’d be against it, and 2- she’s really the one taking charge of the party, and i stupidly agreed. (I wanted to focus my energy on the Bridal Shower).
So she’s giving the girls three options. 1- Come, pay and enjoy the show. 2- Come and enjoy the show, and don’t pay. OR 3- We have 2 hotel rooms, so anyone who doesn’t want to be involved can sit in the other room. Well it seems I’m in the minority here. I’m the ONLY one to didn’t reply to her message with a resounding “HECK YES”.
So now my options are: 1- Tell my husband and hope he’s okay with me sitting there but not touching. 2- I tell him and I sit in the other room… by myself, thus making him a happy man. Or 3- I don’t tell him and I just pretend to have a good time. I’m super awkward, so #3, it’s going to be tough, but i know that my sister would really be upset to know i’m sitting alone in another room, therefore making her enjoy her party less.
– Canceling the Stripper isn’t an option. Out of 7 girls, I’m the only one with a nay response. Plus, he’s booked and paid for.
– I asked the sister of the Groom, and she said he’d be okay with the stripper at the Bachelorette Party, I’m sure he’ll be getting one as well.