Post # 32
@FreckledFox: Talk to your husband. His response will give you all the answers you need! Meaning – if he doesn’t care and you don’t care – then go for it. If he minds, then opt out. If anything, you need to talk to him about it due to the financial aspect of it. Put yourself in his shoes and treat him the same way you’d expect to be treated, if the roles were reversed.
ETA: Just read your updates – first, your sister will be FINE. If her night is going to be ruined because you don’t participate – then, guess what – cancel the stripper. I don’t think you need to be in the room to appease the other girls! If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t be anywhere near the room (since my husband would prefer it that way).
Post # 33
@FreckledFox: Don’t lie to your husband. Tell him and figure out what you want to do.
Post # 34
Okay at this point the Head Bridesmaid just ordered the “man candy” as she called it. SIGH. She said that she’s going to tell him that I am pregnant or sick or something so that he will not come near me with his “junk”.
I cannot believe how excited these othergirls are! They are all either married or with someone, and they are so excited to be a part of the show.
I do not wish to have my face all up in that, thankyouverymuch.
Thanks ladies for helping me feel like I’m not in the minority here! and my DH understands, and he just wants me to be happy, but I’m starting to dread this party. xo
Post # 35
Some women just LOVE that stuff. For me, it’s just kind of funny and completely uncomfortable. I hope never to be one of the screaming, older ladies just dying to put a dollar in someone’s g-string. *knock on wood*
Post # 36
didn’t read the comments, but i’d just tell your husband the situation and you two can come to an agreement on what to do.
Post # 37
Hahaha thats what I told my DH. I promised him that I would never be “that” lady. I can imagine if i wasn’t happy with my husband then yeah, maybe you’d want to touch that. At this point I love my husband to death and the only male stripping I want to see is him getting ready for bed! HAHA
Post # 38
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
@FreckledFox: if it’s only for 45 minutes, cant you just not attend that portion of the show? I highly doubt your sister would fault you for not going considering you are married and generally just not ok with strippers.
Post # 39
My SO and I both have a “no strippers no matter what” rule. Even if I looked like a lame-o, I would step out while the stripper is around. My promise to my SO means more to me than not looking lame. Plus, I can handle a little razzing from my friends if they think I’m dumb for leaving. It’s way more important to honor your word.
Post # 40
It’s not about her being mad, it’s about her worrying about me. That i’m “offendend or upset”. I’m going to just stay as a spectator!
Post # 41
been there done this with my cuz.
when the stripper came i stayed way back so he wouldnt come up to me and i made sure i was not in any pictures and told the girls not to take any of me and do not post or show any if i by accident was in any.
i do not like those types of strippers either.to girly for me
when the stripper started comming towards me cause he saw i had no intrest i shook my head no and put my hand up as if to say dont come closer and he went towards another girl.
i say stay way in the back and hang out for about 10 min,but let your sister know before hand that you might step out for a bit to get air ect to not worry your fine and youll be right back,go into the bathroom to for a few minutes here and there to.
i did the above.my Fiance didnt ask if there was a stripper so i had know reason to just give him that info lol.but im sure he knew though.most batch partys have strippers,blah.
i told my girls no stripppers and my Fiance told his guys he didnt even want a batch because he dont drink and dont want to be around strippers,i love my now husband♥ i had my batch at a resturant bar with awsome food drinks and country line dancing.and my moh had a jack n jill bbq pool party shower for us both
Post # 42
i just read all your updates,great,you talked to your husband,so happy to hear that.
tell your sister you want her to have the best time ever and to drink her heart out because your gonna have fun to.tell her strippers arent your thing but that is not gonna stop you from having a great time,that your excited and cant wait until her party.that will help her feel more comfortable around you and for her to feel she doesnt have to act a certain way with you,plus just because a nastsy stripper will be there does not mean you cant have a good time,and you should try and have a good time because after all its a party for your sister,the stripper is only there for 45 minutes,its not a big deal as your making it out to be in your head,trust me 🙂
Post # 43
Contribute, and go on a “booze run” 20 minutes before the stripper gets there, and just stay gone until after he’s left!
Post # 44
Thats the plan! Hang out, see how it goes down, say no if he offers me anything.. and if it gets a bit too much, I’ll excuse myself for something!