Post # 137
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412 posts
Helper bee
There is nothing WRONG with strippers. Personally I think they are amazing women mainly because I would never have that much self confidence to take my clothes off in front of an audience so kudos to you! 🙂
Plus strip clubs are awesome and personally I think not enough women go. Me and my husband always have a blast at strip clubs and it makes our sexual relationship better. We get couple’s dance and then when I go and get a lap dance without him his imagination goes crazy and he loves it.
People should never judge others especially just because of what they do.
Post # 138
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983 posts
Busy bee
@hfwildcat: As with anything sexual, stripping is only degrading if the stripper feels degraded. I feel like statements like “It’s trashy and degrading” are just you imposing your idea of morality on a group of people. I understand personally not going to strip clubs and being uncomfortable with your partner going, but I have a hard time wrapping my head around how or why you dislike strippers so much. I find it pretty rude to say “I don’t respect strippers” on a thread started by a woman who strips. I mean, really what’s the point of going that extra mile to show how much disdain you have for someone? I just really don’t get it. I find it a little “mean girl”.
Post # 139
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Buzzing bee
I would totally have stripped in college. but several obstacles stood in my way – (including but not limited to) inability to dance, fear of breaking neck on a pole, fear of my family’s wrath (worse than breaking neck), and i went to school in a small town. i imagine stripping in a college town is not like stripping in a big city – instead of dollar bills, you’d probably get dimes and pennies.
Post # 140
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424 posts
Helper bee
@Puffthemagicdragon: Because women stripping is damaging to women as a whole. It perpetuates our role as the sex class in a patriarchal society.
I don’t blame women who strip because they are just trying to get ahead using what society gives them. I don’t think they’re men-stealing Jezebels. But I don’t think that women should have to be okay with the existence of stripping as a profession.
Post # 141
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6262 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
A lot of the problem women isn’t with what happens at the club or party, it’s that they didn’t want their Fiance doing that and he either did it anyway or lied about what happened or did something disrespectful. It’s about his disregard for her feelings, not the stripper’s intentions.
Post # 142
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201 posts
Helper bee
Zerlina, you are aware that men strip as well, right?
Post # 143
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424 posts
Helper bee
@Puffthemagicdragon: Yes, but when they do it it’s empowering because of the power differential that exists between men and women. Another factor is that male stripping is not within the context of objectification as much as it is for female stripping because objectification just not an issue for men in this society. It’s like male underwear ads versus female ones. Male ads send the message of “You want to be this guy.” Female ads send the message of “You want to nail this woman.”
When men view objectifying ads of women, they are not bothered. When women view objectifying ads of women, they are not bothered. But when men view objectifying ads of men, they are bothered because they are just not used to it like women are. Our society does not view men’s bodies in the same way that it views women’s.
Post # 144
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337 posts
Helper bee
@Jellybones: I do disrespect strippers and I do find it morally wrong. I never said I “disdain” strippers, I don’t respect the profession and I think people who choose to do it are making a bad decision.
Boards are about opinions and those are mine. If you think they’re “mean” then I don’t know what to tell you.
She posted in a public forum on a highly controversial subject, and if she or anyone else thinks I’m being “mean” I won’t apologize for it because I’m not sorry.
Post # 145
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337 posts
Helper bee
@Bebealways: You don’t know anything about me, and stripping isn’t the only way to put food on the table. That you even said that is completely ridiculous.
I never said men’s Men’s indiscretions were the strippers fault, along with half the other crap you are making reference to.
About the only thing you said that I agree with is that I said stripping was trashy. It is trashy; that is my opinion. Other than that, you’re throwing a whole slew of remarks that don’t even make any sense in response to my comments.
Post # 147
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Blushing bee
For the FI’s party he is insistant on NO strippers. I told him he’s being boring and a prune.. I completely don’t care. I’m crazy to think that he doesn’t think other women are attractive and if he and his friends get together to act like fools then so be it. I tried to give him a little strip tease, as he tells me he can get it at home, let me just say… he should pay for it! lol no cordination here!
Post # 148
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Busy bee
@hfwildcat: my point is that there is a difference between simply saying ‘strippers/strip clubs are not a part of our relationship’ and making it a point to put down sex workers and call them trashy. it may be your opinion and you are free to have it but it’s not exempt from criticism.
Post # 149
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4654 posts
Honey bee
@hfwildcat: I didn’t suggest it was the only way, but it might be a good way for some people and I’d never judge them for that choice, as valid as any other. I’d rather strip a couple times a week than work 40 hours at mcdonalds. (Especially since when you’re really in trouble, you can’t wait a week for an interview, then another week for your first day, then another 2-3 weeks for your first paycheck…)
(The middle bit of my post about men’s indiscretions was also aimed more generally at the anti-stripper crowd.)
You’re entitled to your opinion most certainly, but right now you are pushing your personal (yours and only yours, does not apply to anyone else) morality on others in a way that does come off pretty unnecessarily mean. The recipients of your judgment are just as entitled to not appreciate that.
Post # 150
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Busy bee
I have nothing agianst strippers or stripclubs, I actualy enjoyed the time I went, but the thought of my fiance watching another girl dance around nude..it bugs me. He’s supose to be with me, enjoy me and my body why would he want to go out and watch another woman do the things i can do for him..Theres nothing wrong with single and available men doing that, but i wouldnt want him going unless it was with me. But im a jelous self consouse person n i’ll admit to that. Its Always been an issue with me and he knows that.
@Kings7911: I’d be heart broken if my fiance had done something like that, betrayed almost. I dont know If i alone in that feeling, there are boundries that just shouldnt be broken.
Post # 151
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337 posts
Helper bee
@Bebealways: You’re right. Some people would rather work a few nights a week and make more than I do in a month. Bank robbers for example only have to work a few days and are set for quite some time. Good argument.
I’m not imposing my opinions on anyone. It’s not like I’m holding anyone down and forcing them to wear clothes. Dear God.