(Closed) strippers

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 152
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have no problem with strippers. I wouldn’t mind FH had strippers at his bachelor party or if he went to a strip club. I’ve been to clubs and I’ve also been at a private party so I know what goes on. 

Post # 153
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Helper bee

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@Jellybones:  Yes, everything is open to criticism and everyone can respond to that criticism accordingly.

Just to be clear, I don’t hate strippers.  I just don’t respect the choice to sell your body for money.

 

Post # 154
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@hfwildcat:  Someone is hurt when you rob a bank. No one is hurt when you dance naked. (You just struck the essence of my morality — the #1 question is ‘are you hurting anyone?’ Laughing )

Post # 155
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@damon1:  I AM 100 % for you and thank you for your 2 cents.

A lot of women on here are insecure or have a jaded view of strippers. 

Rock on ! 

Post # 156
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Helper bee

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@Bebealways:  You’re hurting lots of people.  Is degrading to women as a whole.

Post # 157
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I agree whole heartedly. Strippers are not whores, they’re dancers who dance naked. My FH and I have been to a strip club together and I watched him get a lap dance. It was my suggestion. I am secure with my relationship and don’t worry that he’ll run off with some girl he’s just met. I also don’t find nudity offensive. I told my FH that he and his guys are free to go to a strip club if they want for their bachelor party, but he says he’d rather go do paintball and go-karts. I’ve never been to a stip club that wasn’t legit and on the up and up. Touching over clothes is allowed, but that’s it.

Post # 158
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m pretty whatever about strippers in general.  If single guys or taken guys with an SO that doesn’t mind want to go to a strip club, who cares?  And the ladies who work there are just doing a job.  Nothing against them personally.

However, I feel like they don’t have a place in my relationship.   I feel like my Fiance shouldn’t need to have another woman’s boobs and butt all over him, regardless of whether it’s some chick in a bar or some chick in a strip club.  I don’t see much difference between them, and I think it’s extremely disrespectful to me.  Call me insecure if you want.  I have my beliefs and I stick to them.  FI knows this and agreed to abide by my rules.  I don’t pass judgement on anybody; your lifestyle is your business.  I ask that you do the same for me.

Post # 159
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@Puffthemagicdragon:  LOL! I wonder the same thing

Post # 160
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@hfwildcat:  How is it degrading for a woman to make her own independent choice to provide entertainment? I actually see it as pretty empowering for women to take control of their sexuality even though society tells them that it’s dirty and wrong.

Post # 161
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@karineh:  Just because someone has a different viewpoint than yours about strippers and strip clubs does NOT necessarily mean that they are insecure!  Why do you automatically accuse everyone of being insecure just because they don’t believe in their fiance/husband going to stripclubs?  I’ve seen you do this in another thread as well and I think it’s a bit much.  Just for the record, my husband feels the same way about it as I do.  Does that mean he’s insecure as well?  If you don’t mind your partner going to see strippers, having lapdances, or whatever the heck else, that’s your prerogative, but there is absolutely no need to accuse other women of being insecure just for making a different choice about their relationship!

Post # 162
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@MoonlightRose: 

what is your view point exactly ? that strippers break marriages ? 

And why does it matter what your husband thinks ? I do not care, honestly. 

and yeah, a lot of women are insecure about themselves when it comes to other women. not just strippers. Women tend to have low self esteem and bad habits of comparing themselves to other women. That, in my opinion, is an epidemic and something that we, women, should work on. 

Strippers are women who made a choice of career, why are we putting them down exactly ? 

Post # 163
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@karineh:  It would break MY marriage, but it might not break others.  There are different types of marriages and that’s exactly my point.  If you don’t mind strippers, more power to you, but for those who consider it to be cheating, we should be allowed to have that viewpoint without being accused of being insecure.

Post # 164
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@karineh:  And it matters what my husband thinks because I wanted to know if you’d be as quick to accuse men of being insecure as you do with women.  You say that attacking women is an epidemic and yet that is exactly what you do yourself.

Post # 165
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@MoonlightRose: 

If you establish that you do not want your husband to go to a strip club and he breaks that promise. That is on him not the stripper. 

I said majority of women, that leaves minority out there, FYI. 

Post # 166
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@karineh:  But how can you even say that it’s the “majority” of women without more information about what is going on in their relationship?  You have to take everyone as an individual case.

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