(Closed) strippers

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 122
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Newbee

I love strippers. 

 

But do I want somebody putting their tits in my man’s face? Fuck no. 

Make your money girl. 

Post # 123
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337 posts
Helper bee

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@malloryknoxcunt:  LOL I just love this comment “I love strippers.”  Sounds like it should be a tshirt or something I don’t know 🙂

Post # 124
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s cheating as far as my husband and I are concerned.  If we were still at a point in our lives where what we wanted was to be looking at other people getting naked and/or fooling around with them, we wouldn’t have gotten married.  Period.  We never even had strippers at our bachelor and bachelorette parties because we don’t believe in it.  Other people can do what they want in their relationships/marriages but I would never tolerate this kind of behavior from my husband nor would he tolerate it from me.  We have eyes only for each other, and in our opinion, that’s how it’s supposed to be in a marriage!  If my husband was with any other naked woman, especially if she was on his lap and rubbing herself all over him, it would be cheating (and I would be divorcing him) so why should it be any different just because a woman happens to be a stripper? 

Post # 125
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@OldMrsMcDonald:  I agree.  I’d find it more than a little insulting if my husband would rather pay to look at someone else than look at me, his WIFE, for free!  If I wasn’t enough for him and he really felt the need to go to someone else to have his needs satisfied, I wouldn’t want to be with him!

Post # 126
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@hfwildcat:  People who say money isn’t everything are cofirmed for never having wondered where their next meal was coming from.

Stripping and marriage both are whatever you make of them. If you don’t feel degraded and it’s work you’re fine with doing, more power to you. Men’s indiscretions aren’t the stripper’s fault — she’s just there, he didn’t have to touch her or visit her or talk to her or whatever. Stripping is a perfectly legitimate profession and to me, calling it trashy is again just more women-against-women hate that nobody needs.

Marriage too, is whatever the couple decides. Traditions aren’t necessary, monogamy isn’t necessary. The couple should draw lines wherever they like and stick to those, and not be bashed because their lines are a little looser or different looking than someone else’s. They’re still just as married.

Post # 127
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666 posts
Busy bee

Thanks to the two posters that provided amounts, sorry my iPad doesn’t  let me directly reply.  That is great money considering you don’t have to take out a student loan to get it.  I have a. BS degree in science, a professional certificate in my field, I make 85K and that’s after 15 yrs in the field and paying my student loan off (which wasnt that much, 10k).  

I personally would be too shy and inhibited to strip, but I can see the attraction if you fit the bill, with the looks, dancing skills, and personality that allows it.  

I appreciate your responses!

Even so, i still am not comfortable with my guy staring at and/or touching strippers.  But that is about my belief that it is disrespectful toward me, if you are in a relationship with me.  It’s nothing against the stripper.

Post # 128
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

roguefishfood: Wonderfully said.

So many of the PP’s make me wonder if these women think that strippers are trying to steal their men. That makes me laugh. More likely than not, the strippers probably find said men just as gross as their wives/fiancees find the strippers. Any woman who thinks that a stripper wants to get in her dudes pants probably thinks much more highly of herself and her SO than she should. Let’s be realistic ladies. Unless you’re married to a Channing Tatum look-a-like, you probably don’t have anything to worry about.

Post # 129
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my opinion strippers and strip clubs are perfectly fine… for single unattached guys and couples that are comfortable with it. I’ve been to strip clubs when I was single and I think strippers are very erotic but the day my husband lets me give a stranger a lap dance topless in a g-string… he can have one too!!

No matter the reason a woman is unconfortable with her man going to a strip club or getting a lap dance it should be respected. If the OP is defending her profession by stating that “It’s just a job” and does nothing else with a customer other than dances that doesn’t mean that theres those that do more, a whole lot more. How is a girl to know which kind of stripper her Fiance will have at his bachelor party? Does he ask “Are you rated PG or X”?

Post # 130
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

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Okay. All I have to say is that I don’t disrepect strippers as a whole – if you dance with little clothes on and do your thing for your money, that’s your own decision.

 

TO ME, it is disrespectful when you are in a relationship, engaged to be married, and go off to a strip club to watch naked women or men. It’s not a last hoorah, it’s not your last single night – you haven’t been single since you started dating your fiance! To me, it’s just disrespectful and I wouldn’t tolerate it in a relationship.

Post # 131
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think this was an awesome post on OP’s end.

I’m pretty open minded. If tasteful strip clubs existed where I’m located (there’s literally only 1 and it was in a rough area), I probably would have stripped through university. Why not? I was young, in great shape, and single.

It’s not a strippers fault when someone’s SO lies to them about if they had strippers at their bachelor party. They go home at night with a fuck ton of money in their pockets, for a few hours of work. 

I applaud you, OP. 

Post # 132
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Buzzing Beekeeper

According the 2010 University of Leeds study (the regulatory dance by Dr Teela Sanders) into the lives of strippers the average stripper earns $US74,000.

Now I have 2 Bachelors degrees with honours and a masters and I earn about $US70,000 a year but I work in the community sector which is notoriously underpaid here in Australia (I am on a good wage for my sector as I work in the Government sector).

There are some interesting findings in here like only 11.1% felt bad for themselves, 31.9% said customers were abusive or rude, 74% found it was a good combination of fun and work and only 20.8% found it emotionally difficult. I think this research dispells a lot of the commonly misheld beliefs about strippers and how they must be or feel to do the job!

Here are the summary findings of the research

http://www.sociology.leeds.ac.uk/assets/files/research/events/PreliminaryMediaAug2010.pdf

Post # 133
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304 posts
Helper bee

i’m a stripper named la-a.

that’s pronounced ladasha!

 

Post # 134
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Bumble bee

@Op thanks for being so classy at some of the replys that have been left to you.

Also, have you done any of the pole dance compitions in vegas? I’ve always wanted to watch one live! And little bit of a story here…lol…I used to dance with the girls at the local high end place on slow nights. I never did lap dances or anything, but they liked having a bellydancer to perform with now and then. Granted my costumes were a bit more, substantial then the girls, but we always had a fun time together and I’d get a few rounds free and if they felt generous a cut of the floor cash. I never went to  make money, I went to have fun with my girlfriends. 

 

Post # 135
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Sugar bee

If you are able to do that for a job, or you are a SO, and live entertainment doesn’t bother you, more power to you. 

I, on the other hand, think there are things that don’t belong in a relationship and I draw the line at live entertainment. I’ve heard the argument that there isn’t a difference between porn and strippers, but to me and in my mind (where it counts for my relationship) there is a clear difference between the two.

People also make the argument that if you trust your SO, you shouldn’t be bothered by strippers. I don’t buy that either, I think a relationship is a combination of trust and respect. I would trust my guy if he was ever in that situation, but I hope he would respect me enough to not be in that situation in the first place knowing how I feel about it. 

Post # 136
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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@Puffthemagicdragon:  To answer your curiosity, I am one of the women who is against Fiance going to see strippers (be it at a strip club or private party), but I do NOT think they will try to steal my man, nor do I find them disgusting/gross. I just don’t want anyone else stripping in front of my man, rubbing their curves in his face. And he doesn’t want anyone else getting naked/half-naked, etc in front of him. Neither of us are ok with the other seeing strippers, and that works for us 🙂 So yes we have complete trust and respect in our relationship even though we don’t want to see strippers.

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