(Closed) Strippers at a Home vs Strippers at the club

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have the same rule.  I am perfectly fine with Darling Husband going to the strip club but I have a very strict rule about strippers coming to a home.  At a strip club they have rules and regulations.  Anything goes at a house party with strippers.

I would absolutely not be ok with it.  I wouldn’t lie to my friends about it either.  

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

THERE IS A REASON that the guys don’t want the word out there…

Strippers in a Club are raunchy enough (Guys may or may not pay for sexual acts in the Champagne Rooms)… Strippers who make house calls are a whole other thing…

Ya I’d be pissed off !!

You need to be more aware about what defines a Stripper / Escort / Prostitute

Plenty of topics here on WBee to inform you… I’d start reading up

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Strippers are strippers, no matter where they are. I think it’s a matter of deciding whether you’re opposed to them in entirety or not. I have no problem with my Fiance seeing strippers just like he has no problem with me dancing with guys at a club, but we both have a very firm idea of where the line is and trust each other completely. 

That being said, the fact that your Fiance asked you not to tell your friends about it is not okay. If these men have GFs/wives that they know wouldn’t be okay with the situation, that’s their problem for doing something to break their SO’s trust, not yours.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i would tell my friends their husbands were at a home stripper party. that is not okay

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think there is any difference. A stripper is a stripper, it doesn’t make a difference where she is.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@This Time Round:  “Strippers in a Club are raunchy enough (Guys may or may not pay for sexual acts in the Champagne Rooms)… Strippers who make house calls are a whole other thing…”

I don’t see how prostitution in a back room is different from prostitution at someone’s house. You either trust your Fiance not to do those things or you do, but the location is irrelevant. Have you ever been to a strip club? Walk into a raunchier one, and you may pretty much see live porn.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

umm yes I agree. Given the fact that your easy going enough about him going to strip clubs, and he still couldnt adhere? I understand that it could of been a surprise but lets be real-if that was a non-no he would have stated that beforehand to make sure it didnt happen. I would be firm about my dissappointment but not drag it on.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t mind my SO going to a strip club( he only does for bach. parties) I would not be ok with strippers at a home.  I’m glad my SO said for his party he doesn’t want to go to a strip club. He’d rather be on a boat fishing lol.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO – Anemonie:  Sorry, but that is a very naive reply… “Strippers are Strippers, no matter where they are”

In actuality, Strippers / Exotic Dancers is what they report on their Income Tax Forms… anything else they do, is ILLEGAL to write down (which is why they don’t)

Ya need to talk to a guy who will be straight up with you, to find out what really goes on at these Clubs or Off-Site (or an ex Stripper) there are plenty of posts here on WBee where the TRUTH is revealed.

Not all guys indulge… but studies have proven that tempation is greatest when there is other males involved, drinking, and off-site freedoms / not legally bound by regulations / jurisdiction (not that “stuff” doesn’t happen on-site as well)

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

and some insight on house call strippers-they are raunchier. I’ve been to co ed bachelor partys in clubs and at homes- they are way worse! They don’t have a group of people they work with to judge them for giving the club a bad rep, and they don’t stick to any rules like their would be in a club. House calls  do shows with penetration, lollipops in their hoohaws, then stick in the bachelors mouth, and it can go on depending on if the men are eager for more. Just the truth.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@anemonie:  True enough… there is indeed alot of sexual activity going on in these clubs… more so off-site.

And yes if a Guy WANTS to cheat he will find a way

BUT I think the problem is a lot of women DO NOT KNOW THIS… What you and I know as factual, and “get”… a lot of women still believe cause guys tell them that ALL that goes on is women dancing around naked.  That isn’t true in a lot of cases… I aim to educate other women about what really happens… so they don’t say without batting an eye “Oh sure honey, go see the Strippers dancing topless etc”.  THAT IS NOT THE REALITY

BUT men don’t tell women what REALLY goes on, because they don’t want women to know !!

I have spent a lot of time in one of the most sexual liberated cities in North America, where just about anything goes, and it is 100% Legal due to it being a Private Club… we are talking full-on nudity… touching, mutual masturbation, girl on girl sex acts, boy on girl sex acts… and for a price sex with a Stripper… not to mention the clubs that are for hooking up for orgies (multiple partners)

So YES I am very aware of what goes on in these types of establishments.  If you are willing to pay (or the guys at a Bachelor Party willing to pay for you) and there is enough alcohol THINGS CAN AND DO HAPPEN to good guys all the time.

So sometimes the guy who wouldn’t cheat does also… because of temptation / circumstances etc.

Women need to be aware, is all I am saying.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I completely oppose both. 

@sweetheart03:  Unfortunately, your FI’s friends, and subsequently, your Fiance, have now put you in an extremely difficult and unfair position by asking you not to share this information with your friends.  On one hand, you don’t want to damage your relationship with your Fiance by deliberately doing what he has asked you not to do. On the other hand, you don’t want your friends to be angry and very upset that you kept this information from them if and when they discover what took place.  I’m so sorry that you have now found yourself in this situation. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@This Time Round:  I…don’t really get what you’re arguing. Are you saying that WBee threads have proved the “truth” that all guys are helpless when presented with the opportunity for prostitution? That is a naive perspective, and I’m sorry that you don’t feel any men are worth trusting.

Also, I have seen a stripper give a guy a blow job in public. Just saying…I don’t know how acts of sex and oral sex in public places for money are any better than the same things in a house. There are booze and other men, as well as a lax attitude about legality in both places. So you either have a problem with strippers altogether because you’re worried about your Fiance engaging in prostitution or you don’t at all. I’m not making an argument for or against strippers, only that it doesn’t matter where they are.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@anemonie:  I don’t necessarily see it as a trust factor.  In my opinion, it is more of a comfort factor and having boundaries that you are both comfortable with.

For example, you say you trust your Fiance completely.  That is awesome, that’s the way it should be.  If that is the case, you would trust your Fiance not to cheat on you even if he were lying in bed with a naked woman, right?  Despite this trust, would you be comfortable with the situation?  Probably not.

Does that make sense?  I trust Darling Husband with all of my heart.  I would trust him in either situation.  I am just not comfortable with him being in a situation where there are strippers in the home.  

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