(Closed) strippers at bachelor parties

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@citysparkle:  I personally think it’s stupid.  This subject causes more issues than any other pre-wedding activity.  To be honest, I’m not even sure why this has become “the thing” to do.  In addition, most bachelors I know wouldn’t be too keen on their brides getting naked and dancing in front of a bunch of strange guys, so I’m not sure how these guys justify this activity.  I don’t have anything against the strippers, since most of the ones I know are actually lesbians and hate men lol.

Post # 4
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The idea doesn’t bother me at all. My Fiance and I have actually gone to strip clubs together before, so maybe that’s why. I know at the end of the day the girls are really just there for the money/they enjoy it and not because they’re actually interested in the men. I also trust my Fiance and know that he wouldn’t do anything inappropriate.

That being said, I don’t know how I’d feel about a private dancer coming to the hotel room… I think things could potentially get out of hand fairly quickly there when there aren’t the strict rules that are present at a club. But again, I would still trust my Fiance – not saying at all that you don’t trust yours!

Post # 5
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@housebee:  +1!

I honestly can not understand the idea of starting a marriage with a stripper. Bachelor parties are to celebrate the marriage to come and I don’t understand how a stripper is a proper celebration. Even if it’s just “One last harah” before the big day, I don’t undersstand the justification of nude women in this. 

My own relationship had troubles because of strippers at the bachelor party and I’m still months later trying to get past it. If it upsets you, TELL him! Don’t beat around the bush, don’t sugar coat it. Tell him your feelings and come to a compromise. It’s absurd that men in a relationship think it’s appropriate for this behavior, especially before a wedding. “Oh, you’re getting married? Well let’s celebrate with loads of naked women grinding all over you” doesn’t make sense to me. 

I just want to drop kick some of the men who think like this. Seriously. But I wont

Post # 6
9674 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I don’t like it, Fiance doesn’t either. We both think it’s disrespectful and neither of us will have strippers at our bachelor/bachelorette. Neither of us has been to a strip club, neither of us want to. It might be ok for other couples but strippers are a big NO for us. The only woman I want Fiance to see stripping off is me, the only guy he wants me to see stripping off is him. And neither of us has any interest in watching strippers, never have.

Post # 7
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@tigergrrl2008:  I wouldn’t have a problem going together to a strip club, in fact I think that could be kind of fun.  I think the problem arises when the bachelor chooses this activity without the consent of his partner.  Often it is the lack of respect, not the lack of trust, that damages the relationship.

Post # 9
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

If they were going to a strip club itself I wouldn’t be so worried, but there’s no way my SO would go to a bachelor party with a private stripper in the hotel room. Absolutely not – that’s just disgusting. Sorry if that’s offensive, but that kind of act can easily escalate into something out of hand and just…no.

Post # 10
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally it doesn’t bother me. Darling Husband isn’t going to decide to cheat on me with a stripper, and strippers are not all moonlighting as working girls. In reality, Darling Husband probably has a lot more chances to cheat on me with so-called “regular” girls than say, with the stripper at a bachelor party for someone else.  That’s just my opinion though. 

Post # 11
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally it doesn’t bother me at all and I don’t really see an obvious distinction between a stripper in a hotel room and a strip club.  The strippers are professionals at what they do (whether you approve of it or not) and one thing they will not do is do any more than the pre-booked strip.  Maybe there are some that would but that would only be for a significant amount more money, they are not trying to seduce and jump on any of the guys there.  Also as you said, he’s not the stag so the focus will not be on him.

Post # 12
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@citysparkle:  I would just talk to your Fiance about it.  When my husband and I first started dating (we were LDR at that point), his cousin was about to get married.  He and his cousin are pretty close, and naturally he was invited to the bachelor party.  They were planning on the same type of trip (going to dinner, casino night, then strippers at the hotel).  My husband went to dinner, gambled, and then went home because strippers-at-the-hotel was not something he wanted to spend money on.  Your Fiance might just feel the same way; maybe he’d rather meet them at the casino or something.

Post # 13
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s what everyone just basically associated with bachelor parties. I’ll say, I don’t blame you for being slightly concerned. My friend’s husbands’s bachelor party was having the strippers come on the party bus with them. And one if them did have sex with one if the strippers on the bus. Talk to your Fiance about this or you’ll make yourself nuts! 

Post # 14
2269 posts
Buzzing bee

@citysparkle:  Oh dear. Several Bees have posted about these private hotel room shows. They can get pretty raunchy. The other Bees that posted were shocked because the strippers used vibrators on themselves and performed oral sex on each other. I’m not sure what just one stripper would do…there must be another one coming with her.

If SO went to one of those shows, we’d be done. 

My SO’s friend had a couple strippers come up to a hotel with him and his friend. Who knows what they did, but the strippers didn’t leave until the next morning. 

SO and I don’t fraternize with strippers, in hotel room, at clubs or otherwise. 

@RECrerar:  I personally know strippers who have gone above and beyond what they were paid to do, like making out with the men and giving them bj’s in the other room. Not every stripper is the same. They aren’t robots with “professional” blinders on.

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