Post # 1
Are you guys ok with the idea of strippers at a bachelor party?
I thought I was until FI went down to Vegas on his bachelor party and got a bunch of lap dances. He had permission from me… but it hurt after I heard the details about what they actually do. Ick… I’m not the jealous type at all, but I was not impressed as to the activities these ladies performed in attempts to get him into a private room. Oh Vegas! I’m glad he didn’t go that far.. but still grossed out about it.
How do you ladies feel about strippers?
Post # 3
I know my husband went to a strip club for part of his bachelor party, but it didn’t really bother me.
His best man goes to strip clubs on a fairly regular basis, so I knew it would be on the schedule.
I don’t really know any details, and I don’t want to. I trust him 100%, but I don’t need to know how many boobs he saw or what they looked like
Post # 4
My fiance really, really dislikes strippers. He tends to run away from them. So I was tempted to collude with his brother to hire one as a surprise. I decided that’s too mean, though. [even if he was into it, it probably wouldn’t bother me. I’m super non-jealous in general]
Post # 5
Here’s my opinion and I realize it’s probably a minority one …
It’s not cool. I know lots of women say it’s fine, it’s nothing, it’s not like they’re having sex …
I don’t care. I want my man to respect all women, not just me. To me, gaping at strippers and getting lap dances is not a sign of a person that respects women. I don’t care how well they’re paid for it, I think it’s awful and degrading.
Post # 6
I don’t foresee this being an issue – I dunno how keen FI is on strippers, but I feel like its a ridiculous tradition that his groomsmen will get a kick out of. I won’t ask details, and if it happens, I’m just going to try and think of it like that – that its silly, and nothing else.
Post # 7
I told him that as long as the strippers stay in their natural environment (on the stage, in the club, and not on his lap or in the hotel room) I really don’t care.
As for the respect issue – I figure that the women are there by choice, and tend to make a pretty penny dancing around, so if they don’t have a problem “entertaining”, I don’t feel it’s disrespectful for FH to watch them.
Post # 8
I don’t really like the way the question is worried!
Would you “let” your FI…..
I am not his mother and I do not give him permission for what he can and cannot do!
We have had discussions about strippers and he doesn’t really like it and thinks its a waste of money because you can go somewhere where there aren’t naked girls and cheaper beers!
However, if his friends wanted to take him he would probably go but we have a no touching/no lap dancing deal. And that goes for both of us! Because knowing my GFs there may be male strippers involved in my bachelorette party!
Post # 9
Our best man is a regular at strip clubs as well, only, he know’s my FI isn’t into it and doesn’t like it, so they’re doing something else with no strippers involved.
i’m 100% with fontgoddess. “I want my man to respect all women, not just me. To me, gaping at strippers and getting lap dances is not a sign of a person that respects women. I don’t care how well they’re paid for it, I think it’s awful and degrading.”
Post # 10
I think every case is diff. I would be fine with FH going to a strip club around here for many reasons!
- I have been tons of times and the girls are gross
- You can not touch or anything
- bottoms stay on
- The girls are only intrested in your $
- there are many more!
FH isnt into strippers and knows they only want your $. He also goes there for work and always talks about how nasty they are!
But if it was a Vegas club I might be mad because they girls there are pretty and TRY to push the guys.
Post # 11
I don’t have a problem with it. I know he’s gone multiple times (and I’ve gone myself too) and I’m sure he and his friends will go during his bachelor party.
None of the strippers want your man (and you should trust that your man doesn’t want the strippers either). They are just there to do their job and make money (and they make a pretty penny too).
As to people thinking it’s degrading to women …. as Goldilocks1107 said, the strippers choose to do what they do. No one is forcing them to do anything. So how is it degrading when it is a personal choice for them?
Post # 12
Mike went to a strip club, but I didn’t care. I’ve been to a male strip club, so I know nothing happens. Besides, he’s told me in the past they make him uncomfortable, and I believe him.
Post # 13
I am with fontgoddess & KLP in that it is my own personal belief that women selling their bodies to men is degrading, and I want my man to respect and value all women, and to see each one as a person rather than an object. Thankfully my FH is in the same camp as me, which is just another reason I love him 🙂
Post # 14
Here’s the thing, I don’t have a problem with strippers.
HOWEVER, my thing is that if he felt the need to go to one and get a “private show” or whatever I would be incredibly hurt by it. I’m his wife, I don’t feel like he should be intimate in any sexual way with anyone besides me. Luckily he has never been interested in that – his bachelor party was an overnight casino trip.
Post # 15
Ya the private shows are definately scandalous!
Post # 16
The fact that he even considered going (knowing how I felt about them – which is HELL NO) pisses me off to this day. I still hold grudges against his friends who tried to get him to go.
I tried to be ok with it, but eventually realized that I was lying to myself and to him – if he’d gotten a lap dance, we would not be married now, and I knew that if he went to a strip club, duh, someone would’ve bought him a dance. I had to put my foot down – that kind of behavior is simply not acceptable in a relationship if I’m involved.