- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015 - Bali
Fiance just had his bucks weekend.
I knew he would go to the strippers. I wasn’t happy about it. I personally feel like it’s really disrespectful. I understand that men are visual creatures yada yada yada. I’m an emotional creature, and if I had another guy meet my emotional needs for one night, pretty sure that wouldn’t be cool.
I’m an anxious person by nature and struggling to decided whether I’m being irrational and anxious, or logical.
We had a big fight about it a few weeks before he left and he got really mad and said ‘Fine! I’ll tell the boys to cancel if it’s going to cause this much trouble!”… Well that would make his friends pissed at me, so I said ‘Fine, go!’. He assured me that it was just a tradition, there was no touching and drinks were expensive anyway. Plus, he never goes to strip clubs at any other point.
Saturday night he messaged me saying that the ‘entertainment was over, nothing bad happened, I just got embarrassed in front of the boys’. I was grateful that he took the time to tell me that…
Until he got home on Sunday with whip marks on his backside. He told me that he did touch her, he ran his hands up and down her body. I think he forgot the no touching thing. After I broke down in tears he told me that she grabbed his hands and made him.
This is not a dealbreaker for me. I know there are girls out there who don’t have a problem with it. I want to be those girls.
I don’t know how to feel better about this. He says it’s no different to looking at a naked girl on TV.
I know it’s a bucks tradition
Our relationship is really good
Perhaps i’m just projecting my own insecurities
I just feel so anxious everytime I think about it. Like we are now a little less magical 🙁
Anyone want to make me feel better? 🙁