(Closed) STRIPPERS!

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Yea, they are going to a strip club but I have no issues with it.  It’s just looking, no touching.  And I trust him not to do anything stupid. I have even been to this particular strip club with him before. 

So no need to worry, they won’t even LET the guys touch the girls.  And I’m sure you can trust him not to cheat on you.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My fiance already had his bachelor party.  We discussed all aspects of it beforehand- I know some people have a "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy, but we do not operate that way.  We share and communicate.  It builds the trust even stronger.

He was never going to have strippers at his party or especially in his hotel room, but they did plan to visit strip clubs.  Nothing intense.
They ended up going into one club as a group, but received no attention and left after a little while.
I would have been okay with more (though we had established, agreed-upon limits- including no lap dances, etc.). But I am happy that he had a rockin’ good time without more.  ;)  They ended up hitting sports clubs and bars, and generally goofing around as best pals.
Others in his group DID go back to the strip clubs, for much, much more.  One got thrown out and banned.  But my fiance is not a night owl, so he wasn’t there for that.
This, to me, was one of the nice parts of getting married in our early 30s.  The desire to do stuff like that has passed, for the most part.  Been there, done that.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

Nope, he doesn’t want that. We both feel it’s disrespectful to each other for either of us to go to a strip club with men or women "dancing". Not to mention a huge waste of money! JMO!

We aren’t naive though in knowing that lots of guys want to show their friend a great time when planning the bachlor party! Which sometimes means they plan to go to the strip clubs. But he has made it clear he doesn’t want that. They are doing a poker night for his.

Funny thing was at my sister’s hubs bachelor party, they went to a strip club and all the guys were too cheap to even buy her hubs a lap dance. They all ended up leaving shortly afterwards! Too funny!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I don’t think it is necessary about whether you trust your man or not, it’s about how you feel about strippers!  However, it’s interesting that there is so much talk about strippers at bachelors parties and very few at bachelorette parties. 

My take:

Bachelor: I don’t care what my fiance does, and we have talked about it.  He can go to strip clubs, he can buy lap dances, he can have strippers in hotels, etc.  It’s all fun and game.  

Bachelorette: I myself have attended many many bachelorette parties and we do almost everything that guys do at bachelor parties, going to strip clubs, buying lap dances, having private strippers, etc.  It’s all fun and game. At the end of the day, I don’t really want to sleep with these people.  

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I told my fiance I wasn’t comfortable with a hired stripper going to his party, but if he wanted to go to a strip club, that was fine with me. So long as turnabout was fair play, lol. Not that I wanted to go to a strip club, and ultimately neither does he, but I am a firm believer in equality between the sexes, lol.

I have no idea what he’s doing for his bachelor party. He doesn’t even know, because we’re still so far out, but I’m 99% sure it won’t be to a strip club.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I didnt ever really care about strip clubs and such, and luckily the Fiance seriously hates them  but when i went to Vegas for my bachelorette party we somehow wondered into one (girl strippers) and honestly i was shocked. Maybe its just cause it was VEGAS but frankly they DO let the guys touch and it was just way beyond what i ever thought it was!!!! Then my Fiance went to a Bach party and they had strippers come to the house (again not worried about the FI) but I saw the pics and umm yea it was def. cheating to me! I couldnt believe what some of the guys were doing with the girls….  its really all about YOUR Fiance though, you have nothing to worry about if he isnt "that guy" . And everyone has a cheating curve. So i guess it is what it is.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m anti-stripper, but fortunately Fiance is too, so the only worry is that his groomsmen may think that he needs strippers anyway. But we live in Oklahoma, so the strippers aren’t that exciting. (no full nudity in OK)

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think my guy is even more anti-stripper than i am… so, no worries here.

one of his best friends (and groomsman) had a stripper at his b-party which was planned that way by his gross, creepy father. the guys were so uncomfortable with it the whole time.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

My husband went to Montreal for his bachelor party and while they did go to strip clubs, I’ve been told that those places are a bit on the smelly side…imagine the scent of sweat and fish….yeah, not exactly what I would have imagined, but I can see how it’s possible…so I wouldn’t dwell on it too much.  After all, at the end of the day, he’s coming home to you! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My Fiance is totally uncomfortable with the idea of strippers.  He and his friends went for a really fancy golf weekend (three days of spendy courses and spendy resort hotels) for his bachelor party.  The only discussion we had about strippers concerned a friend that he was considering having at his bachelor party, who all the guys were afraid would hire strippers even if they told him not to.  He’s done it before, and several of the married guys ended up in trouble with their wives.  I told Fiance that if wanted a stripper that was one thing, and I wouldn’t necessarily have a problem with that.  But I did have a problem if his friend had so little respect for his wishes that he would hire a stripper even if told it wouldn’t be acceptable.  In the end, they all agreed not to invite that friend, which was just fine with me. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I second karieck05 about it being really disrespectful towards the significant other, bachelor/bachelorette or not.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I third strippers being disrespectful to the significant other…bachelor/bachelorette party or not.

My Fiance and I are planning on NO STRIPPERS.  They are just gross and disrespectful, we both agree on this.  My Fiance went to one bachelor party and the strippers were sooooo rauncy. 

However, for both of us people keep insisting they want to get strippers for us even though we have made it very clear we REALLY do not want them.  It sucks because I see a problem ahead, but I all know, and I’ve told those attending my bachelorette party, that I will be pretty pissed if a stripper shows up.  So, we’ll see….but I see some stormy weather on the horizon…

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Lillindy – that was my point exactly.  If your friends want to visit strip clubs, that’s great, and they should go.  But using you as an excuse, when you have clearly said you don’t want that kind of thing – what kind of friends are these?  Clearly not ones who value your opinion, or care about your level of comfort.  My friends want to take me to the Thunder Down Under, and I just can think of so many shows in Las Vegas I would rather see.  So – I told them I’m up for the weekend as long as we can pick activities that I’ll be happy with – and otherwise they can thunder to their hearts’ delight without me.  Once you make it clear that you’re not going to be pressured into it, and that you’ll happily get up and and walk out if it comes to that, it takes a pretty rude person to push the issue.  So maybe those people just don’t need to be included.

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