- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Well ladies, I think the deed might have to be left up to me.
It’s complicated though…
My SO has been joking for some time now about how I should propose to him since he asked me out in the first place. Or so I THOUGHT he was joking.
He keeps bringing it up.
I’ve been brushing it off for awhile now. He’s a really goofy guy, and I just figure he’s being a dork. A little less than a week ago, he pretended he was about to propose to me (the link to that little rant is http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/worst-tease-ever).
I realized suddenly today that maybe he’s being serious. We were at a baseball game with a bunch of our friends, two of which got married yesterday. They were talking about the benefits and how excited they were and all that jazz. My SO and I quietly discussed little things to ourselves about whether we should live on base or receive BAH for off-base housing when we move to VA in 2014 (he’s a “Lieutenadant” for the Marine Corps currently, haha…), and I reminded him, and not for the first time, that we have to be married in order for me to stay on base with him.
He reminded me (and not for the first time!) that he’s just waiting on me to propose.
I have a few issues with this.
First off, I love him to pieces. I want to spend the rest of my life with my SO. He feels the same way about me. We were absolutely meant to be together. I have no fears about the actual proposal and how it would play out in general. However…
1. I think that it would emasculate him. He says that it wouldn’t. I told him that I feel like he would say no just to be an ass, and turn around and propose back. He pretty much laughed it off, which tells me nothing either way.
2. I really, REALLY want him to propose to me. I feel that it would be much more romantic that way. Maybe I’m old-fashioned by nature, I don’t know. Like I said, I love him and wouldn’t have any problem giving a heartfelt proposal, but I feel like I would enjoy the whole thing more if he were the one on one knee.
3. Even if 1 & 2 weren’t major issues, his brother (a Marine) and all of his military friends (Marines, soldiers, airmen, etc.) would absolutely give him crap. They’re all single guys in their early-to-mid twenties. Very macho dudes. I know he would say he doesn’t care, but I really don’t want to chance him feeling uncomfortable. It’s important to me that he’s happy.
I know some of you are reading this and rolling your eyes at me, but this is a pretty big deal in my eyes. I could use a little bit of perspective from some unbiased ladies such as yourselves!
And before you tell me to talk to him about all of this, I have! He assures me that I’m being silly, I have no idea if he’ll say yes or no to me, and he doesn’t care what others think. Am I overanalyzing this? Should I wait? Should I bring up different points to SO? Help!