Post # 1
I know to some people this may not seem like a problem at all but its really irritating me.
I am 5’8 and just over 117lbs. I have always been slim but did have anorexia when I was in high school. I was hospitalised when I was 15 when my weight plummeted to below 70lbs.
It seems like people are much more careful about possibly offending someone who is overweight but think they have a free pass to say what ever they like to someone who is underweight.
For what it is worth I have been trying to gain weight for years but I cant. Anorexia is a mental illness and one that stays with you a very long time, if not forever. I seem to get to a point where I have gained a decent amount of weight only to un knowingly lose it again and reach square one all over again.
I do not consider myself to have an eating disorder any longer but im really struggling to keep weight on. People are regularly commenting on how slim I am and how I clearly do not eat when in actual fact I eat quite a bit.
How can I keep it on. I eat loads.
I cannot eat dairy due to allergy but eat a lot of carbs and good fats. I have a job where I am on my feet all day which doesnt help and running after an almost 1 year old isnt helping either.
Post # 3
How many calories are you getting a day? Meals? What do your meals consist of?
Post # 2
ChocolateLime: since you’ve struggled with an eating disorder, to the point if hospitalization in the past, I think you would be wise to seek help from a professional. In your particular situation asking advice of random internet strangers seems risky.
Post # 4
MrsTillerResq: On average 1700 calories.
I always have breakfast, mid morning snack, lunch, afternoon snack, dinner and I tend to have something before bed also. I eat alot of meat and veg, pastas, rice dishes and eggs and nuts.
My husband eats the same as me and he is considered a normal healthy weight but he can eat dairy. People always comment on how our portion sizs are massive too.
Post # 5
Lets take today as an example.
Breakfast consisted of scrambled eggs (2) on wholewheat toast with lactofree butter.
Midmorning I had 2 slices of wholegrain toast and a lactofree hot chocolate.
Lunch I had a bowl of homemade chicken soup followed by a crisp sandwich because i was still hungry
This afternoon I have been picking on sweets and chocolate and 2 slices of toast
This evening for dinner we have beef and ale pie (homemade) with mashed potatoes and green beans and gravy.
Clearly the carbs arent working so I have no idea what else to include other than more dairy. Also what do I say to the rude people who keep making horrible comments
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Have you seen a doctor or had anyone check for hyperthyroidism?
Post # 7
Tell them that slim people struggle with body image just like everyone else. Tell them to mind their own business and worry about their own struggles instead of making you feel self-conscious for yours.
I would suggest trying a non-dairy protein shake as an in-between meal supplement, AND do some weight training to add some healthy weight to your frame. I have always been long and stringy, and when I began weight training (not body building) my shape changed, and I love it! Also, muscle burns a lot of calories in and of itself, so you will have to up your caloric intake (just something to remember).
Good luck. My mom makes me feel bad for looking good by saying (with “that’ tone). “You look like you’ve lost some weight. I wish I had time to workout.” Ugh. Know what I mean? 🙂
Post # 8
FutureDrAtkins: No, when ever I see my GP he tells me he is happy with my weight and although underweight hes not concerned. I will be making another appointment soon and will ask this question.
Post # 9
Myfitnesspal.com has all sorts of boards for weight loss and weight gain, depending on your weight goals. It really is helpful, has recipes, & other supportive members standing in your shoes. Unfortunately I can’t help you gain weight (healthfully and with deliberation, anyway) because wanting to do so is a foreign concept to me, and I’m always trying to lose it. But there are others out there like you, and I see them regularly posting on myfitnesspal.
Post # 10
1700 is not enough calories, if you are that active. You are probably eating close to maintenance, or may even have a defecit. I would recc figuring out your TDEE (online calculators help with this). This will tell you appx how many cals you burn per day with your height/age/weight/activity… Then you would want to add maybe up to 15% of that number, to get a healthy caloric goal. Your weight will slowly and steadily increase in a healthy manner, as long as you make sure you all of the calories that you are eating are healthy and clean. Count them every single day to ensure you are meeting your goal. If you still lose weight, you need to see a Dr. to see if you have a medical problem.
It’s the same concept of losing weight, and will take just as much (if not more) dedication and willpower.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I agree with PPs saying try shakes too. If you go to GNC there are lots of “mass gain” powder formulas you might be able to add into your diet.
Post # 12
‘Eh, in my experience — at the other end of things — people are actually QUITE open about sharing their disdain for people who are overweight (as it’s deemed “entirely” within that person’s control to change it). Overeating is a vice within someone’s control, if only they would stop being so gluttonous and lazy– being too thin is seen as a mental problem (When it comes to knowing that someone has an eating disorder, I’ve found that people are generally very accepting, even tolerant of it — i.e., “It was so much pressure.”) I think it’s a very accurate assessment, though, that when people aren’t aware of an eating disorder — past or present — that criticisms tend to be levied more openly at those perceived to be “too” thin.
I do think the suggestion of looking into hyperthyroidism is a valid one. How active is your lifestyle? Assuming a sedentary lifestyle and an age around 30, your daily maintenance level is about 1550 calories. If you are eating roughly 1700 calories a day, but also exercising — even a light to moderate 20-minute workout per day could be enough — it may be the reason you’re stuck at your current weight. What you call “massive” portions could also be a remnant of your battle with anorexia — namely, smaller stomach size. Since anorexia tends to run in social circles (namely, it’s more likely to affect middle class and upper class women), this also begs the question — do others around you tend to eat small portion sizes (or do the others you know also have eating disorders)? Are most of them average, underweight?
While it sounds as though you and your husband have similar dietary preferences at home, he may actually be eating more than you think when you aren’t around.
Still, the possibility of hyperthyroidism is a very valid one in why you’re having difficulty gaining weight. Is there a history of thyroid problems in your family (sometimes, you may not know it’s the thyroid — terminology like “goiters” refers to thyroid problems)?
A doctor may just advise fitting in a few more calorie-dense snacks into your day. Given your previous eating disorder history and your current weight — even if you are otherwise healthy — my bigger concern is early onset osteoporosis. I assume your doctor is aware of the ED, but maybe that’s something to bring up with him too — what you can do to prevent current damage from getting worse, and how to prevent more in the future. Otherwise, your weight may be something that’s upsetting for vanity, but is otherwise benign to your health — even if you are slightly underweight.
Post # 13
ChocolateLime: I agree with you SO HARD on this:
It seems like people are much more careful about possibly offending someone who is overweight but think they have a free pass to say what ever they like to someone who is underweight.<br /><br />
Body shaming no matter what the body is STILL body shaming! I get it pretty often from my coworkers. UGH.
Post # 14
ChocolateLime: I would talk to a professional about how to do this healthfully. As someone who has also suffered an eating disorder in the past and also consider myself in recovery, I also know that my views on normal eating probably still are not normal compared to most people…you might be the same way. 1700 calories is probably not enough for you to be gaining weight, although you might be able to maintain at that level depending on your activity level. You would probably benefit from adding some healthy fats and proteins to your diet. I would suggest tracking your meals for a week and then working with a nutritionist who has experience with eating disorders. I am sorry people are saying things to you- I know that is not helpful!
Post # 15
CookieCreamCakes: I work 16 hours a week at a restaurant as a server barmaid. This plus looking after and playing with my Dear Daughter is my only form of exercise if you can even call it that.
My friends are mostly overweirght or above average weight. I understand what you are saying about portion sizes but what would feed a family of four feeds just two of us in our household. I do tend to pile plates high!
I am not aware of anyone else in the family with thyroid issues although my brother is extremely slim too. My father is overweight and my mother is average weight for her height.
I get alot of comments from the customers where I work. Putting alcohol into the mix lead for very honest discussions from behind the bar! I do not mind being called slender or slim but the word skinny to me is just as bad as obese IMO.
FutureDrAtkins: I will have to look for lactose free shakes. I remember being given shakes when I came out of hospital to gain weight but that was before I developed an intolerance to lactose.